Therapy Dog Beheaded

[Sophist]

//shrugs

It is a bit of a leap to imply that anyone not willing to agree with you simply because you are upset is not a real friend, or incapable of real empathy. Yes, listening is important, but generally speaking allowing someone to wallow and paint the blackest picture possible without trying to step in isn't being a real friend either. Not speaking of Crow Noir and her rant, because we really don't know the context and her buddies' emotions, just with the thoughts Denyce expressed.


I think expecting your own emotional reaction to warrant unflagging support and a fear of disagreement is manipulative, and makes the person expecting the "friend", instead of the friend who is trying to reason with them.


Or just maybe, some people who react emotionally would tend to look a little more favorably on the cops because it is horrible, but at least this one little added extra bit of awfulness you aren't going to just accept? You can't deny the situation with the dog, but at least the salt in the wound is something you can rationally grapple with to make you feel like things couldn't possibly be as horrible and ugly as they usually are?

Why is it that the 'truly sympathetic' tend to only extend it to those who react the same way they do?

I react very emotionally to what I percieve of as attacks on cops, as it seems her friend does. I think that deserves some consideration. I wouldn't come on here and start ranting about the bad apple pit-bulls and not expect pit lovers to respond and be emotional.

[Denyce]

*shrugging right back* It is not being manipulative to know when is the right time to speak your mind and when it is being compassionate to just be a friend and say "yes that was a horrid thing".

I would agree that if say Sophist and I were friends and I knew of her attitude towards cops and how it is an emotional issue for her and I would take advantage of a horrid story and situation such as this to denigrate and carry on about how bad cops are AND also expect Sophist not to be defensive and try to defend cops in general.

You know what? I went back and read Crow Noir's post again for some clarification and she did know that her "friend" would be sensitive about cops since his brother is one and yes therefore expecting the friend not to be defensive is wrong. Reading the thread through quickly because of how upsetting this situation is caused me to not catch some of what was said. My bad.

I think letting this thread get back to what it's original intent was is best.

What a horrid thing was done to an innocent dog and the family.

*sigh*