Trying to figure relationships out...

[king2005]

As someone who is in a similar situation, I would **never** speak harshly of my child's father within a mile of my son, not that I really have harsh comments on him to begin with. I wouldn't think too highly of anyone that would trash my child's father within MY earshot, whether I considered the statments true or not.

I wish my mother took that approach, would have been easier on us kids.. My sister went mental & tried to stop the pain with constant drinking, drugs & hurting herself.. she was only 12 when she snapped Our mother when to the extent where her & Child Services tried to force us to say that our daddy was a bad man & was touching us!!! Which he never did!!!

My dad took you approach & I'm still close to him. he said us kids came first & he would never say or do anything to harm us.. so he never said anything bad ever & never faught with mom or anything.. my dad was super civil & lost everything as he said us kids needed it more.. My did lived in a dump with junk...


All I can say is that acting like the parent you disslike doesn't exzist is a million times easier on the child... all that yelling & stuff really messes kids up...

its been over 10yrs now & dad still doesn't say anything bad about mom or her family.

[catnapper]

I never, ever would say anything bad about his dad to Cam. My mom never ever said anything bad about my father.... she left us to figure it out. I figured it out long before my brother - he spent half his life feeling like he was missing out on something great. I gave up saying anything bad about CF to Ash because harping and nagging never gets anybody anywhere and there's not much to say that she probably doesn't realize on her own anyway.

Sigh... she spent hours last night laughing over her friends making fun of CF and now she's over at CF's all night. She'll come home around 11:00 tonight with a very cranky baby in tow

[BitsyNaceyDog]

Is it possible that she does see him as being a not so great guy and does really agree with her friends, but goes to see him because she wants him to be active in Camrons life?