Moving and quitting my job... :-(

[mike001]

Really sorry to hear about the trouble you're having. But I have to agree with a few of the others. I think it would be the biggest mistake of your life to up and quit a job you enjoy and are looking to take over when your friend retires. You said that all your friends are there, so you seem to have a lot of moral support. And Cyber-sibes is absolutely right. You will always meet "that" same person no matter where you go. I don't know how old your aunt is, but have you thought of what it could be like if she wasn't there for you???
Travelling for shows is nothing compared to a move like you're thinking of. Maybe wait and sleep on it, have that supper with your boss, and remember, wherever you go, you'll always have some people that will annoy you.

[buttercup132]

Maybe your boss will relise having you is better then the other person and she wouldnt like to loose you. Good luck!

[Freedom]

I've moved and changed jobs a number of times. Went to a whole new area (over 200 miles away) where I didn't know a soul twice. Sometimes I quit the job (once because of someone I couldn't stand working with), sometimes it was a merger and huge layoffs. I wouldn't have traded ANY of those experiences for the world!

I have friends in all those areas, and I call, write, visit and otherwise keep in tough with all of them. And they come visit me. The first 2 months have always been the toughest, trying to find my way, reading maps just to locate the grocery store! I already had a job lined up when I moved, even though I never had a job ready when I left the prior job. So I spent some time unemployed and searching long distance.

I've learned a lot about myself and the world. Still, I don't think I could do it now that I am older. I am glad I did it when I was young and able to move and adapt.

It is scary and at times overwhelming but it also builds your conifdence. Good Luck with this!

[wolfsoul]

Thanks guys. This really isn't something I can learn to deal with -- trust me, what this person does is not something that I will find everywhere else. It's not that kind of hate relationship at all -- This person could and should go to jail for the things that happen at work and the things they do at home. Even if I talked to someone about it and they made the person stop -- it would still be like asking me to sit in a room all day with a serial killer that doesn't kill anymore; It wouldn't make me any less uncomfortable. I went through a huge depression in 2005 and when things started getting bad at work I almost had a mental breakdown. I learned to hold it all inside and just let things happen, and I really started to enjoy my job, especially when I started moving up in status. But my boss has been away the past few days and so I had to spend alot of time doing what I did before -- and it brought back memories and made me realise why I hated that part of my job. In the long run, there are ways this person can make me unhirable in any grooming parlour. I can't really say why...I wish I could, it would make you all understand, believe me.

Freedom, that is so great that you found those experiences rewarding. That is what I hope to find as well. I have a friend who lived everywhere, and tried and did everything, and her experiences make her such an interesting person. I've lived here my entire life, the biggest risk I ever took was moving out at 17. I would have a chance of actually being in a relationship over there -- not alot of younger people in dogs here.

[lizbud]

I think you are doing the right thing by quitting a job like that.Sounds like
your recognize that staying won't help anything on the job, and it's time to
move on in the business world. The owner will probably end up losing her
business before long.Good luck for the next job.

[wolfsoul]

Thanks Lizbud.

I already have three people interested in hiring me, I'm quite excited. One is in Nanaimo, on the island, so I will probably have to decline. I know very few people on the island. But it may be a live-in job so I will still consider, if it is. She shows quite extensively and wants someone to look after her kennel while she is away (which is often -- she just got back from Italy in fact). So she said she would give me a call tonight. She also called her friend in Aldergrove (lower mainland) who owns a kennel, and she is going to call me too, and she called her friend who owns a grooming school or something and is looking for a groomer. I don't know all the details yet. All of this was my uncle talking to his friend today who talked her her friend and so on. Nice people! They are all calling me tonight or tomorrow.

[Taz_Zoee]

I know change is scary, in fact I hate it! But you will never know unless you do it. I moved over an hour away from my family with my boyfriend and even left my 12 year career! Yes, it was very scary. But now I LOVE my job and I love the city I live in. I work over an hour away from where I live and don't want to find a job closer to home. It's that fear of change thing.
Just keep in mind....moves are not permanent. If you absolutely hate it you can always go back. Not necessarily to that job, but back to the place you grew up. I know it's a risk....but that's what you've got to do sometimes.

From what I've read, I think the move would be a great thing for you. And at least you'll have a relative and friends close by.
Good luck with whatever you choose.

[borzoimom]

Thanks Lizbud.

I already have three people interested in hiring me, I'm quite excited. One is in Nanaimo, on the island, so I will probably have to decline. I know very few people on the island. But it may be a live-in job so I will still consider, if it is. She shows quite extensively and wants someone to look after her kennel while she is away (which is often -- she just got back from Italy in fact). So she said she would give me a call tonight. She also called her friend in Aldergrove (lower mainland) who owns a kennel, and she is going to call me too, and she called her friend who owns a grooming school or something and is looking for a groomer. I don't know all the details yet. All of this was my uncle talking to his friend today who talked her her friend and so on. Nice people! They are all calling me tonight or tomorrow.

OHHHHHHHHH SQUEELS!!! Take it! Sounds like a BLAST!

[wolfsoul]

Well, I talked to my boss, and she told me she would fire the person. So now I'm not sure what to think. I think I am going to stay, but just plan to move to the Lower Mainland one day. My aunt was very excited that I was moving down there, I feel bad. But she did tell me that she had considered buying a place up here for my other aunt to live in and I would live in the basement suite. So maybe I will ask her about that. Would make living here alot easier. Except the houses here cost twice as much as they do there, and I don't know if she knows that lol.

I am unbelievably stressed out. I told my boss I needed to talkto her really bad, and apparently it scared the crap out of her. She had to run over here or she would never have been able to sleep. I feel bad. I'm going to be a major suck-up these next few days I think. Just my nature.

So many changes lately. I haven't had this much anxiety in a long time.

[cyber-sibes]

Well, I talked to my boss, and she told me she would fire the person. So now I'm not sure what to think. I think I am going to stay, but just plan to move to the Lower Mainland one day.

Good for you for talking to her about all this. Maybe there will be some resolutin now. And in spite of all the stress, you've begun to look at options for the future ! Best wishes, whatever your decision.

[wolfsoul]

Well, looks like my boss changed her mind. She gave them a "warning." Like the millions of other warnings this person has recieved. That's it, I'm done. I told her to call me again tonight and I'm going to tell her it's over. Just not worth it.

[Catty1]

So now you are free to go, and bug Slick! lol

[Alysser]

I'm sorry you have to leave your job and move. That stinks, but if it'll benefit you and make you more happy then I say go for it. Good luck, and I hope everything works out for you in the end.