Moving and quitting my job... :-(

[Catty1]

Jordan, I bet you mean a lot to your boss. Once you announce your decision to her, she might finally wake up and take your problem at work more seriously.

Good luck!

[wolfsoul]

Thanks everyone for your replies and support.

The person isn't doing anything to me, they are doing it to someone else..I can't really explain. It just hurts me to much to watch it. I've tried talking to my boss about it but she doesn't want to hear about it anymore -- she says it frustrates her to hear about it because she doesn't know what to do. She doesn't want to fire the person as the person has no where else to go. But the person is damaging her business and is going to give it a bad reputation. I don't want to work in a place like that.

I'm not worried about finding a new job -- I could get hired over the phone, it's so high in demand. Groomers are very hard to find in Canada, and even though I'm not 100% trained yet, alot of people like that because they can train you the way they want and avoid any habits you picked up somewhere else. My main worry is finding a job that pays as much as this one does. I get around $300 a month in tips alone.

I am breeding now -- had my first litter last year -- my problem isn't people coming here, it's me having to travel to show and trial my dogs. Visa doesn't even have her CH yet, should have had it forever ago, but there's just nowhere to show. I have to wait until someone else goes so I can get a ride with them, and depending on people is a nightmare.

This person is always going to work there, no doubt about it. I remember my boss saying that she would only get rid of the person if someone really important threatened to leave if she didn't fire the person -- but I don't want her to think I am giving her an ultimadem, so if she does fire them, I will still quit. My other coworker says she is going to quit because of it too, and also move away. Maybe this will be a huge wake-up call.

I think it would be much scarier living there if I didn't have the support down there. My aunty will help me out whenever, she will always be there for me. She even told me there was no way she would let me move to another part of the Lower Mainland, I have to live in the same city as her. And of course I will be close to Ashley and Slick, so I will have some friends there. I haven't been hanging around my friends much lately anyways. The person that will be hardest to leave is my boss. I'm very attached to her...but I can get a good long distance plan and call her all the time. Sometimes I feel like the times we spend together isn't important to her like it is to me, so maybe when we only see eachother a few times a year she will appreciate me and our times together.

I'm still very half and half...but I really think I will do it. I'm scared, but I had to learn last year in my counselling that I can't always let my fears stop me from doing something that might be good for me. I have to make myself happy, not just sit back and wait and take compromises and not speak up.

[binka_nugget]

Sorry to hear about this.. I didn't know it was so bad for you at work.

You're right. There's a huge demand for groomers. There are SO many shops looking for groomers in Vancouver right now.. it's insane. But the cost of living in the GVRD is outrageous. I couldn't find a place to rent that would accept my two for less than $1000/month.

Good luck with whatever you decide Jordo.

[mike001]

Really sorry to hear about the trouble you're having. But I have to agree with a few of the others. I think it would be the biggest mistake of your life to up and quit a job you enjoy and are looking to take over when your friend retires. You said that all your friends are there, so you seem to have a lot of moral support. And Cyber-sibes is absolutely right. You will always meet "that" same person no matter where you go. I don't know how old your aunt is, but have you thought of what it could be like if she wasn't there for you???
Travelling for shows is nothing compared to a move like you're thinking of. Maybe wait and sleep on it, have that supper with your boss, and remember, wherever you go, you'll always have some people that will annoy you.

[buttercup132]

Maybe your boss will relise having you is better then the other person and she wouldnt like to loose you. Good luck!

[Freedom]

I've moved and changed jobs a number of times. Went to a whole new area (over 200 miles away) where I didn't know a soul twice. Sometimes I quit the job (once because of someone I couldn't stand working with), sometimes it was a merger and huge layoffs. I wouldn't have traded ANY of those experiences for the world!

I have friends in all those areas, and I call, write, visit and otherwise keep in tough with all of them. And they come visit me. The first 2 months have always been the toughest, trying to find my way, reading maps just to locate the grocery store! I already had a job lined up when I moved, even though I never had a job ready when I left the prior job. So I spent some time unemployed and searching long distance.

I've learned a lot about myself and the world. Still, I don't think I could do it now that I am older. I am glad I did it when I was young and able to move and adapt.

It is scary and at times overwhelming but it also builds your conifdence. Good Luck with this!

[wolfsoul]

Thanks guys. This really isn't something I can learn to deal with -- trust me, what this person does is not something that I will find everywhere else. It's not that kind of hate relationship at all -- This person could and should go to jail for the things that happen at work and the things they do at home. Even if I talked to someone about it and they made the person stop -- it would still be like asking me to sit in a room all day with a serial killer that doesn't kill anymore; It wouldn't make me any less uncomfortable. I went through a huge depression in 2005 and when things started getting bad at work I almost had a mental breakdown. I learned to hold it all inside and just let things happen, and I really started to enjoy my job, especially when I started moving up in status. But my boss has been away the past few days and so I had to spend alot of time doing what I did before -- and it brought back memories and made me realise why I hated that part of my job. In the long run, there are ways this person can make me unhirable in any grooming parlour. I can't really say why...I wish I could, it would make you all understand, believe me.

Freedom, that is so great that you found those experiences rewarding. That is what I hope to find as well. I have a friend who lived everywhere, and tried and did everything, and her experiences make her such an interesting person. I've lived here my entire life, the biggest risk I ever took was moving out at 17. I would have a chance of actually being in a relationship over there -- not alot of younger people in dogs here.