Quote Originally Posted by catland
Did you ask him to set the table?

In all fairness, people aren't mind readers - and don't say "he should know better" - like I said, he's not a mind reader.

Also, how old are the kids? Can they set the table? If they are fairly young, get some indestructable plastic or corell plates. I set many a table when I was young. If this task is done before dinner is ready, then the problem should go away.

Next time he grabs one plate - give him the rest of the plates, give him a big hug, tell him how wonderful he is, and ask him and/or the kids to set the table.
It is something he has done since we have been married, and we have discussed it numerous times! It is not something he just did this one time! Hence his Nickname "One Way" .My kids have set the table numerous times. The setting of the table wasnt the real issue, the issue was that he thinks of himself first, and foremost, and that is not okay with me, and he knows it. The kids come first.