All of you Married folks out there!

[Pembroke_Corgi]

Let me start off by saying that of course Eric's good traits outweigh his bad- or I wouldn't have married him!

That being said, there are things that really annoy me about him. First of all, he is TERRIBLE with money. Awful, and it drives me crazy. He always desires something expensive that I couldn't care less about. He always claims he will "save" for it (he can't save a dime to save his life) but then finds some "deal" that he can't pass up so he'll spend the rest of his paycheck on it. His latest is a projector that he bought this weekend. But, I know I spend money on other things, I like to travel a lot and go home to see my family, and I have the vacation time to it, when sadly he doesn't. So it evens out...I don't care too much as long as we always have enough to pay the essentials.

Another thing that really bugs me is how much he worries about his health. I'm not advocating that he ignore things, but he makes thing worse by obsessing over them too much. Then, if I dismiss his concerns, I'm insensitive, so I just listen but try to focus on the positive.

I know there's a lot of other things that bother me, but those are the most annoying to me. I'm sure I have tons of annoying habits, too.

[Sophist]

Eep!


Well, as a newlywed and a super-difficult person to live with, I am not going to join in here.

In addition, I have made a resolution not to bad-mouth my husband publicly. It is always a little scary to me how when groups of women get together, it so very often deteriorates into a b****-session about their men. If it bothers me, I write about it or tell him, but I will not trash him to my mom, sisters, friends, coworkers, etc. Been doing this for several years now (back when we were just best friends and dating) and so far it works very well. It may be hopelessly naive to think I can sustain it forever, but so far it works.

In fact, I always try to throw in something nice and random about him when the sessions start up. Finding a way to compliment him to others and having them all tell me what a wonderful thing it is has really helped me several times when I was beginning to take him for granted, or was just being pouty.

So, with this resolution in mind--- it is crazy what a fabulous baker my husband is. Cheesecake, coffeecake, shortbread and lemon squares are what I have him make the most often (yes, he takes requests). He even made our wedding cake, and everyone said it was fabulous. I was too sick with the viral flu to have any, so when I was finally well enough to go back to work, he worked like a mad man the whole nine hours (and had done prep work before while I was too sick and tired to notice) and re-created it for me, so I could enjoy some of my wedding cake (well, as close to it as I could get, lol).

And trust me, if you had ever tasted this man's cheesecake, you would have been willing to marry him, too!

[catland]

Cheesecake? you are lucky.

I'm lucky too. My husband is very handy - he can do electrical work, plumbing, sheetrock, you name it. We've spend very little $$'s on home repairs over the years because he can do it himself.