It's OVER

[Queen of Poop]

Thanks everyone for your kind words and support. I was mostly doing ok today, but now I'm feeling...really I don't know. Just sad. Very, very sad.

[Karen]

Thanks everyone for your kind words and support. I was mostly doing ok today, but now I'm feeling...really I don't know. Just sad. Very, very sad.

It's okay to be sad, sweetie. Change is hard, even a change for the better. Sending you big hugs, and people from my church are praying for you, too. So if you feel hugs coming from way back East, that'd be us! The physical bruises will heal way quicker than the emotional ones, you can expect some up days and some down days, but remember that we love you, and this is a good thing. Tell Sasha to give you a kiss, it's from me!

[borzoimom]

It's okay to be sad, sweetie. Change is hard, even a change for the better. Sending you big hugs, and people from my church are praying for you, too. So if you feel hugs coming from way back East, that'd be us! The physical bruises will heal way quicker than the emotional ones, you can expect some up days and some down days, but remember that we love you, and this is a good thing. Tell Sasha to give you a kiss, it's from me!

I agree with Karen- the physical bruises will heal quicker.. It took me I would say a year before raised voices did not scare me- knowing what would come next- but then one day I realized something totally in my heart- I AM SAFE- AND ALTHOUGH THINGS MAY NOT BE RIGHT- I AM SAFE- AND THINGS ARE getting better in tiny ways.. Look at the little things- not the big.. Example- our first week alone- me and my daughter, I went shopping at walmart and we bought spaculas.. ( yes - the things that turn eggs).. Well- we had a spacula party in the house.. lol.. Look at the little- it works..

[king2005]

I'm so proud of you! *HUGS*

Thanks everyone for your kind words and support. I was mostly doing ok today, but now I'm feeling...really I don't know. Just sad. Very, very sad.

I know its hard, I wish I could say you'll feel happy really soon, but thats usually not that case. I'll take a while to really get over it. But once you can everything behind you, you'll really start to enjoy everything again!

Its almost a year for myself & I can tell you it wasn't easy. However I wasn't strong enough to leave. Luckly he had found someone else & kicked me out. I have some perm. damage from being hurt, so your very lucky you did something when you did.

HUGS

[ramanth]

Many *hugs* to you Gayle that you had the courage to do what many other woman don't.

Change can be scary but things will change for the better now.

Don't forget to cuddle those slithery ones of yours. They are a great comfort too.

Lucy sends hisses and tongue flicks.

[My Peanuts]

It's so wonderful that you got yourself out of a bad situation before it got even worse. You are a very strong woman and you've just shown us all that you are.

[Laura's Babies]

When I got my dicorce so many years ago. I found this poem in the newspaper. I pinned it to my bedroom wall and kept a copy in my purse. Whenever I was blue, sad or felt upset, I would take it out and read it. There was days I know I read it 10 times. THIS poem is what helped me through it and taught me that I AM worthy! If it helps you half as much as it did me, you will get a lot from it....

" Comes the Dawn"
After a while, you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul.
And you learn that loving doesn’t mean leaning
and company isn’t security.
(Kisses aren’t contracts and presents aren’t promises.)
After a while you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes open,
with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build your roads on today
because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain
and the inevitable has a way of crumbling in mid-flight.
After a while you learn that even sunshine burns
if you stand too long in one place.
So, you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone else to bring you flowers.
And you learn you really can endure,
that you really do have worth.
You learn that with every good-bye comes the dawn.

[Husky_mom]

I can´t imagine what I would do in your situation, I understand feeling sad, as mentioned before, change can be saddening, more so change involving relationships..........even for better............

but I have to tell you...........my hat´s off your you Gayle!!.........you make the woman genre stand up high..........congrats for being brave and having the courage to stand up for yourself..........certainly you did good.........

if you need anything we are here for you, but that you already knew, big hugs to you and Sasha........keeping our thoughts with you.......((HUGS))

[Catty1]

I am sharing this in hopes of giving you a bit of a smile, and mean no harm:

I was divorced in 1988 after a marriage of just several years. A high school friend of mine, who was very nice but who I never thought was given to quick wit, sent me what was at that time one of them new-fangled divorce greeting cards.

The cover of the card was black; large capital red metallic letters spelled out D-I-V-O-R-C-E, hyphens and all.

Beneath that, in smaller print - but still red - was: "It's not a pretty word - but remember..."

Open the card:

"..it's worth 18 points in Scrabble."

I just HOWLED. It was so unexpected!


HUGS to you.