Ally was the aggressor with Connor, but that might have been partially because he is deaf. I have another deaf cat, so my guys are used to it and it wasn't a problem to integrate him into the herd. He even sleeps on the bed (usually hogging it), but after the first few days it was like he has always been here.

If Newark is closer to you, then maybe Julie should look into that airport. The bigger it is the more flights you get from BA and it is easier to transport them over. If DC is selected, then I am happy to pick her up and meet you along the way (then you don't have to drive into Dulles).