Dealing with "one-uppers"

[Pembroke_Corgi]

I have a friend who can be like this at times. I don't let it get to me because I think it comes from low self-esteem. My friend IS very intelligent and accomplished, but she's always feeling the need to prove it to others because I don't think she believes it herself.

Maybe your co-worker is the same...maybe she is just acting this way until she feels people like her and she can be done "proving" herself. For your sake, I hope so! It does get to you after a while, but I'm guessing it isn't done to be arrogant, it probably just comes from feeling nervous or unworthy.

[lizbud]

I have a friend who can be like this at times. I don't let it get to me because I think it comes from low self-esteem. My friend IS very intelligent and accomplished, but she's always feeling the need to prove it to others because I don't think she believes it herself.

Maybe your co-worker is the same...maybe she is just acting this way until she feels people like her and she can be done "proving" herself. For your sake, I hope so! It does get to you after a while, but I'm guessing it isn't done to be arrogant, it probably just comes from feeling nervous or unworthy.

I believe this too. These are very needy people. I would just smile & ignore
it and not bother trying to one-up a one-upper.(if that makes any sense )

[kuhio98]

Yep, I just ignore it because I figure they are ignoring some annoying thing that I'm doing.

I know what you mean, though. The mother of a friend is like that. It doesn't matter what medical thing is going on in your life. She's had it before. Hers was bigger, badder and worse than anything you've ever experienced.

After you know this lady better, then maybe you can say something one-on-one to her. Don't confront her in a crowd. Just tell her you notice this habit of hers and ask her if she's aware of it. You're new, so I wouldn't be making any waves right now. This is just one of the annoying habits that makes life "interesting".