I too have a cat that doesn't want to be with me. Missy was a stray in the neighborhood and now is inside. She and her male companion are confined to a bedroom and outside cat pen.

Ghost, the male, will sit on my lap or next to me and allow petting along his back and head. Missy cringes every time I come near her. If she is 'trapped', she will freeze. I can pet her without getting scratched or bitten, but she really doesn't like it.

I'm spending as much time as I can in the room, just watching TV and petting Ghost. Hopefully she will come around. I've only been at this for a couple of months.

She sure doesn't mind touching me when it's time to eat!! I think Wayne has a good idea.........feed her separately and maybe even by hand. I'm going to try that too.

Let us know how you progress.

Mary