Ahh, Robin, you are right - sometimes we have to be self-centered and do what we need to do for ourselves to survive. I meant to be one of the ones to support you during this difficult time but have not done it except in prayer. I hope things turn out all right for you - as cyber-sibes said - sometimes that is not at all what we had planned or expected but simply what is. You will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.