cataholic, yes, i concur with the others. Don't push her into doing things that she doesn't want to. Take your time, and do not place all of your attention on her, because a cat can sense this desiring and this in itself, causes them to be more distant. Try feeding her with some special "cat goodies" (tuna for example), apart from the others. I have found that this alone will bring them "out" the quickest way.

..........wayne