Quote Originally Posted by Lobodeb
He has been beaten and both physically and sexually abused by his caretakers.
Oh, Lobodeb. I'm a nurse and this just breaks my heart. There is no reason - NONE - for caretakers to inflict pain or abuse on the ones for whom they are caring (not that I would call it caring at that stage).

My grandmother's husband lived in several nursing homes for the last years of his life due to a spinal cord injury. He had good caregivers and bad caregivers. When the care was lacking, he developed things like constipation, malnutrition, urinary tract infections and pressure ulcers. When the care was good, his health was also good. I guess part of what these parents are doing is making their daughter physically easier to be cared for, so that she can remain as healthy as possible. I worked in a rehabilitation hospital for almost ten years - it was a heck of a lot of work and there were days when I was less than happy with the people I was caring for - but that never gave me license to do them harm.