Moral quandry about peeing foster cat

[jennielynn1970]

In a way, I am glad you found out WHO was doing all the peeing. And I personally think that you should do the hard choice. Trust me when I say that I know that even though she is a foster, you will feel like you are doing this to one of your own. But you really need to think of the LARGER good, starting with your own sanity. And even though the change may be hard for Furbee at first she may very well find another (more suitable to HER needs) foster home.

PLEASE, I beg of you to think of yourself and your home and your other kitties FIRST. (you have my permission. LOL)

Well, yes, she is the kitchen peer, and I believe she pees on the dining room table as well, cause she sleep on it (so that would be territorial). But she's not the only peer. So, do I punish her for peeing in the kitchen, while some of the others still pee against the walls??

It just bothers me. She is sweet. She slept by me for a long time on Saturday when I was working at the dining room table (now having no tablecloth on it at all...). I don't know of any other fosters who don't have any cats, or just one other. Well, Elaine does, but she wants cats that will get adopted easily. That's not Furbee. I don't want to doom her to a life in the shelter, she'll just be miserable.

As for caging and retraining that was suggested... if you would hear the bloodcurdling screams she makes when confined, good lord!!! It's enough to wake the dead. I don't know what her former owners did to the poor girl, but someone really mistreated her. She just breaks my heart.

[jenluckenbach]

I don't know of any other fosters who don't have any cats, or just one other.

True, about our CURRENT foster homes, but Joyce has a way of placing these cats.

I think you are the only one who can decide how you feel and what you need to do. We DO tend to take our foster cats deeply into our hearts (which is not a bad thing) but some situations are not meant to be.


HAVE you tried medication for her?

[jennielynn1970]

True, about our CURRENT foster homes, but Joyce has a way of placing these cats.

I think you are the only one who can decide how you feel and what you need to do. We DO tend to take our foster cats deeply into our hearts (which is not a bad thing) but some situations are not meant to be.


HAVE you tried medication for her?

She hasn't been on any meds since I took her from the shelter 1 1/2 yrs ago. It was a battle just giving her clavamox. She is like a possessed kitty when it comes to meds, being held, and being caged.

I took her initially because Joyce asked me too. She saw "sucker" written on my forehead, lol. I was not fond of Furbee at all for a while. She was so anti-social and just a beast! But now, I just feel sorry for her. She just needs an only-cat home. I just wish I knew of someone like that! The one elderly couple who came to see her a few months ago would have been perfect, except the husband kinda cornered her, and she felt very insecure, and she nipped at him when he bent over to pet her. He was about 6ft. 3inches. She was scared of him, and had every right to be. I wouldn't want some giant I never saw before leaning over me when I have no where to run! Of course, he made all the decisions in the household, so it didn't matter that she adored the wife and played so sweetly with her. Freaking men. No wonder I'm still single!!!

[jennielynn1970]

I think I'll see if I can get her into the vet this week and take it from there. Maybe some meds would chill her out and she wouldn't be so freaked out by the other kitties either. I'd feel better than putting her back in the shelter. I just want to take so many of them out of there.

I'm taking Moonbeam tonight. She's ancient, has a thyroid problem and weighs about 4lbs!!! Poor little thing!

You wanna take Dittle for a while?! You could get her adopted out! She's playful, loves other kitties and is adorable! She comes running when you call "Hey Dittle Dittle!" and makes all these little chirpy noises! I need to get her to PetSmart and/or to the Cat Show, whenever that is.

[Catty1]

Jenn - maybe some Rescue Remedy that you just put in her water, or Feliway spray?

HUGS and good luck at the vet.

[jennielynn1970]

Jenn - maybe some Rescue Remedy that you just put in her water, or Feliway spray?

HUGS and good luck at the vet.

Tried both of those to no avail. Have so many of the outlet plugins sitting around, lol. The refills are outrageous in price, and it wasn't doing much after a few months anyway...

I'm going to make an appt. for her at the vet. It just breaks my heart thinking about returning her to the shelter. I know how high strung she is. She'll just end up hiding and they'll never notice she's missing, and she'll die that way.