For work, I fly twice a month. This may not be what you want to hear, but I figure what will be will be. We're all going to go when it is our time and it's all been decided already, so why worry? I can't control and I've made my peace with it so I just go with the flow. I refuse to limit my life because of my fears. I am much more frightened of dying in a car wreck and flying. Thousands of people check out every inch of a plane throughout the year -- hardly anyone checks out cars -- or their drivers.

Bobcat is terrified of flying. He takes a valium before getting on the plane and is much more relaxed -- and so am I since before valium, he used to get stinking drunk on the plane.

Please consider asking your doctor for a prescription. Sure, you don't want to come to rely on medication for every-day stresses and strains, but since your fear of flying is negatively limiting your life, why not try it?