Words of condolences-

[Vela]

It IS really hard, and I know how you feel. When our friends lost their baby, it just seems like no words are adequate. I'm sorry sounds so hollow, and nothing you say really sounds right. As others have said, try to be there and be support. People are all around when it first happens, but then they either disappear due to dicomfort, like others have said, or they just go on with their lives and the person with the loss is still feeling it so strongly. They can begin to feel alone after the first rush of people stops coming around. I'm sorry for their loss, it is especially harder when they are young like that. Thoughts and prayers for them, and all involved.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Some times its not the words you say - its the fact that you have gone out of your way to say them. So many people say nothing for fear of saying the wrong thing. When Dad died what hurt most was the people who said nothing about it - even a self conscious mumble "I am sorry to hear about your Dad" meant the world me. A hug meant even more..........

[kimlovescats]

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's husband. I understand what you mean about finding the right words to say. Maybe you could just drop her an "I'm thinking of you" card now and then. It doesn't need to say anything particular about the situation, but it will just let her know that she hasn't been forgotten. Maybe make a meal for her or dessert now and then as well. These "little" things can go a very long way in easing the pain!
Hugs to you and this friend!