Major Worries! IT's EVEN WORSE!!!

[BitsyNaceyDog]

Karen offered some great advise. If you have one a church family is a wonderful place to look for help and support. Does your other daughter (please forgive me, I can't remember her name) have a friend that may be able to babysit for a few hours?

How far are you from Chattanooga? My sister-in-law goes to a private college there (Tennessee Temple). She's here in Florida right now for the holidays, but she may be able to help you some after she returns to Tennessee.

[cassiesmom]

Kim, how are you all doing today?

[Logan]

I wanted you to know I am thinking of you, Kim. I know this is a horrible time for you. Be strong for Jenna and please, please, please take care of yourself, too.

We love you and hate to see you in the midst of such turmoil as a mother and a grandmother. It is going to get better. It has to!

Logan

[Catty1]

Kim - how are your other daughter and husband reacting to this? What are they doing?

Is is possible that your being so upset, which you have a right to be - are you pushing them out without meaning to because you are so caught up on "how" to fix this?

If you are someone who always has trouble reaching out to others, this is the time to stop. Maybe your husband and daughter learned long ago that whatever they did, it wasn't good enough - so they don't try any more.

I am not bashing you, hon - but I saw this happen in my family, and others. And it really hurts more at times like this.

{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

[AbbyMom]

I have read this thread many times and thought about how I could offer words of wisdom or encouragement. I find that I have nothing to offer that others haven't already offered.

But I do want you to know that I'm thinking of you and your family and sending prayers.

[kimlovescats]

I saw my daughter in court this morning. It was extremely hard seeing her in handcuffs off in a seat in front of the entire courtroom. Chad had an attorney who asked the judge to drop the protective order from him in regards to Jenna. The lawyer had Amy Beth sign to agree to this. Before I even got home, Chad and 2 police officers were at my door and took Jenna from my husband. There is nothing I can do about it at this point. He is a "free" man and she is his daughter ... since Amy Beth agreed / signed to drop the protective order regarding Jenna, then he has every right to her. Right now I am just so exhausted that I am numb.

I bawled my eyes out nearly the whole time I was in the courtroom ... it was very hard sitting there all alone. Several other women in the courtroom came over and hugged me and gave me tissues. After court, I ran in to Chad and his mother in the elevator. She hugged me and I didn't even speak, I just broke down in her arms. The elevator door opened and I got out. I looked into getting an attorney to file for custody of Jenna, but the only who could / would talk to me today wanted $6500.00 up front! We don't even have 1/3 of that! Right now I am just not going to pursue custody. I know that Chad's mother will be the one actually caring for Jenna while she is in "his" custody. Chad even told my husband that he doesn't want full custody of Jenna. He also claimed that he had been staying at Amy Beth's apartment with her some during all of this. I don't know who to believe anymore and I am fed up with the whole thing. I know that between myself and his mom, Jenna will always be cared for and protected as much as possible. The court date is set for January 2nd to determine the outcome of her charges.

For those speaking of my husband ... you have the wrong impression! Jerry could not be a more supportive or loving husband to me. If anything he is too tender-hearted almost to a fault. He loves me and my girls and would do absolutely anything I asked him to do. My younger daughter (Amanda) is tired of having her time with me messed up and pre-occupied with Amy Beth, Jenna and their problems. I know exactly how she feels ... I lived the same scenario with my older brother and sister.

[borzoimom]

I was afraid this would happen. Without her staying with a protective order, with him the father, he is entitled. I have no idea what to do.. None..
I feel for you so much. I wish there was something I could do.

[Catty1]

I am glad you have Jerry's support....I hadn't heard much about him, and am glad to hear this.

As I said in my post, I was not trying to bash you - I just didn't know what he was or wasn't doing!

It almost sounds like you and Chad's mom might have some sort of alliance...your kids are both in trouble. She has been in pain too.

Maybe you can arrange visits meanwhile?

I know you can't see which way is up right now, Kim - but I hope you have some quiet time right now.

I guess Amy Beth signed over custody because there was legally no one else she could sign over to at that moment...and she certainly wouldn't get Jenna back right now.

PRAYERS and HUGS.

[cassiesmom]

more [[[hugs]]]
Dear God, please bless Kim and her family this afternoon ... please help them to feel your presence at this holy time of the year. Please give them physical health and strength. Please be with Jenna and her parents and all those who love her. God, I know that what is impossible with people is possible with you, so I would just ask that your peace would be with Kim and her family right now. Thank you, God, Amen.

[Craftlady]

My heart goes out to poor little Jenna. She is more than likely one confussed little girl. It's not a wonder she hasnt freaked out when officers in uniform show up. It's twice now that they have showed up and she has been taken somewhere else to stay. Even though it's been from one grandparents to the other set of grandparents the way it's occurred would upset any child let alone someone as young as Jenna.

It's sad when small children are caught in the middle. God is watching over Jenna for sure & that is a comfort.