Umm this is weird..*MAJOR problem*

[Pembroke_Corgi]

It sounds to me like this man is acting very inappropriately. I would suggest she keep away from him.

Maybe she could tell him he makes her uncomfortable with his comments, and if he continues to make them she will tell his wife. Hopefully she can continue to remain friends but stay away from the husband...if he continues his behavior even after confrontation I think she should tell her friend. What a tough situation.

[Soapets]

I had kind of a similar situation when I was a teenager. The husband sent me letters and gift sometimes after I went to college, and I made sure to write thank you notes addressed to BOTH of them, listing HER name FIRST, and he got the message real quickly and stopped doing it.

Maybe your friend could sometime, in the presence of the wife, say something to the husband like "You know my friends and I all say 'love you' before we hang up, in a friendship sort of way. I guess it's OK if you say it, too, if you want to." If she approaches things like that, always with the wife present, he'll soon get the message. And maybe she could say, in a joking-like tone, something like "What did you mean you didn't want me to tell your wife (or say her name here) that you were chatting online with us?"---again in the presence of the wife.

If she brings everything out into the open like that in her best friend's presence, I can guarantee he'll get the message and it will stop. If not, then he's definitely making a very poor attempt to fit in!

[animal_rescue]

Thanks guys, I passed on the advice to my friend and she really appreciates it. For now she's just going to try and ignore him when he's on the computer trying to talk to her and stay near her friend when she's hanging with her. But if it comes to the point where she has to say something, she definitely will take your advice on it!

[kuhio98]

Unless he is saying those STUPID things in front of his wife, he is being inappropriate. She should trust her feelings. If he is making her feel uncomfortable, she should stay away from him. She's done nothing wrong. But, if she stays quiet he will continue to speak this way to her and even escalate it.

She could do what I did... I friend's husband was coming on to me at a dinner party. She was in the same room as us, but out of hearing. When he made his "offer", I laughed very loud and long until I had several people's attention. Then I said something like, "You'll never guess what Fred just said!" Fred got a panicked look on his face and quickly went over to his wife and never left her side for the rest of the evening. He's avoided me like the plague ever since.

I'll never forget something my grandma told me. She said, Cockroaches like the dark. Turn on the lights and watch them scatter!

[Laura's Babies]

Tell your friend to always trust her feelings. If it makes her uncomfortable, TRUST that feeling and I think Soapets advice was right on target how to put a stop to it.

[Miss Z]

This definitely sounds like an uncomfortable situation and I think something along the lines definitely isn't right. Your friend certainly has every right to suspect what she suspects and I think it would be best if she let her friend know gently before things get out of hand. Soapets advice was also a great idea.

I hope everything goes well