Are you in a position to order rehab treatment for her, or a psychologist? I'd call up someone - maybe that grandparents group at your hospital, a social worker, shelter, anything....even call a rehab centre.

They have seen and heard it ALL, and will be a great source of information and solutions.

Suggest that if she wants to be free, that she spend one of her phone calls on AA, and agree to a visit with them. They will send a pair of females (or maybe one). I know there was pot - but sounds like she has issues with alcohol as well.

SO many have lost families and kids - and got them back again. She can too, if she's willing to get honest and do the work.

Have her call AA, hon. And maybe call Al-Anon for your own sake, just to talk to someone.


HUGS