Major Worries! IT's EVEN WORSE!!!

[gini]

If you told us that your daughter had called and was crying because
she was going to miss out on her daughter's Christmas

then I would have a hard time over that. But instead I read that SHE wants to be out for Christmas.

TOUGH LOVE is exactly that TOUGH! And it is very hard on everyone.

If you bail her out, you will be right back at square ONE.

It sounds so horribly harsh - but what your daughter is doing to herself and to her own daughter - could not be harsher................

leaving that child alone..............it should never, ever happen again!

In the meantime, I offer up many prayers for you and your family.

[borzoimom]

I agree with gini...

[kimlovescats]

Amy Beth does miss Jenna. She always wants to talk with her on the phone and cries her eyes out afterwards! My daughter loves her baby girl, she is just very young still and has problems that need to be addressed. There is NO excuse for all that she has done, and she needs to "pay" and suffer .... and the courts and DCS will expect a lot from her before they give Jenna back to her. The thing is, that she is getting no help by sitting in a jail cell. There is also the chance that once she gets to court, that she will have to serve some time. If this happens, there is no getting her 'out'. She has severe abandonment issues with her own "father". It makes it that much harder to make her feel that I have also abandoned her. I know that I would be giving others the same advice that most of you are giving me ... but it is a completely different thing when you are facing this with your own child.

[borzoimom]

If nothing else- she is detoxing- without able to do anymore.. You do know that detoxing from this can cause depression..
Honey- we are just here to support you and your care for your granddaughter during this trying time. I really do feel this is the only way for your daughter to realize- this is a real problem. She needs to show she is trying to do something to correct the situation. Also with this situation with her, it will be hard to get a restraining order as the court could see her as a just as neglegent. Or at least she has a problem with her credability..

[RedHedd]

I agree with gini...

Me too. Prayers going out your way, Kim, that the path gets easier.

[My Peanuts]

I am so sorry about all this. Prayers are on the way. I know it must be eating you alive to leave Mary Beth in jail, but it needed to be done. I hope that she will understand that one day if she doesn't now.

[Catty1]

Are you in a position to order rehab treatment for her, or a psychologist? I'd call up someone - maybe that grandparents group at your hospital, a social worker, shelter, anything....even call a rehab centre.

They have seen and heard it ALL, and will be a great source of information and solutions.

Suggest that if she wants to be free, that she spend one of her phone calls on AA, and agree to a visit with them. They will send a pair of females (or maybe one). I know there was pot - but sounds like she has issues with alcohol as well.

SO many have lost families and kids - and got them back again. She can too, if she's willing to get honest and do the work.

Have her call AA, hon. And maybe call Al-Anon for your own sake, just to talk to someone.


HUGS

[catfamily]

Catty 1 ...That's great info

[kuhio98]

Kim ~ Your whole family is in my thoughts and prayers. I urge you to stay strong. Tough love may be just what she needs. She needs to know that she is responsible for her actions. Yes, she may think she's learned that lesson, but if you bail her out, she may always think in the back of her mind that you'll always be there to clean up her messes. Please stay strong. This very, very, very hard lesson may keep her from making countless mistakes in the future.

Please don't bail her out to make yourself feel better about the whole thing. We all want to be there for our kids. But, you are being there for her. In a different way. In my humble opinion, the biggest, kindest gift you could ever give her, is this time in jail to reflect on where she is. Where she's been. And where she's going. Stay strong!

[catnapper]

Oh Kim, you are being a good mom and grandmom. This is what she needs, even though she likely won't realize it for quite a while. Glad to hear she passed the drug test and isn't going through withdrawl; thats a positive sign that you got her before she went completely down the wrong path.