Major Worries! IT's EVEN WORSE!!!

[kimlovescats]

So much for the thoughts that Amy Beth is "doing everything right". She called me this morning around 10:00 a.m. to tell me that she was being arrested and taken to jail! She said that "her" private investigator charged her with filing a false complaint (or something like that) for the call about Chad being at her apartment yesterday. I don't know what to believe. But regardless of whether this charge is rightful or not, is NOT the issue. While Amy Beth was gone to meet with the P.I.... she had left Jenna at home in the apartment ALONE!!! At the time of this call to me, Jenna was STILL home alone and had been for close to 2 hours!!! Needless to say, I screamed and yelled at my daughter for being so stupid and negligent. All she could do was say how her charges were so unfair and everything was Chad's fault. She thought the meeting with the P.I. would only "take about 5 minutes" and today was MY day off from keeping Jenna, and she just didn't want to deal with taking Jenna along. Jenna is TWO, and she gets restless and fussy in public places, so DEAL WITH IT!!! Don't leave her HOME ALONE!!!!

I immediately got off the phone with her and got my husband to rush to the apartment to get Jenna. We called the apt. manager to have maintenance meet us there with a key. (Amy Beth didn't want me to have a key even though WE co-signed for her lease!) Any way when we got to the apartment their were 2 cop cars there. I literally ran into the apartment screaming for Jenna!!! Thank God she was ok and the cops had fixed her some Fruit Loops to snack on. No doubt the first she had to eat all day! I grabbed Jenna right into my arms and bawled my eyes out for a very long time. I just cannot believe that Amy Beth did this. To add insult to injury there were items on the counter that were very upsetting and harmful! All out in visible sight on the counter. All of this was documented, video taped, and photographed. There was also no food in the cabinets and the small bit of milk was out of date. I just gave her over $200.00 of her own money this past Friday to buy groceries for the next two weeks, and she hadn't bought anything! I can only assume that she is buying drugs instead of food for her baby. I know that Amy Beth has still been eating fast food. Yesterday I asked if Jenna had eaten lunch, and her response was "oh, she ate a little bit of a taco ... but I don't think she liked it .. so yeah, she probably is hungry!" In otherwords, she bought herself tacos, Jenna got a bite or two and nothing else. Grammy always feeds her when she gets here.

I am so beside myself with shock, fear, disgust, and broken-heartedness that I can barely think straight. Amy Beth's bondswoman just called me to co-sign to let her bail out .... I refused. This was the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life. I have no doubt that my daughter thinks that I have turned my back on her. I told the bondswoman to explain to her that it is the fact that she left Jenna home alone, and in an unsafe environment, that was the final straw for me.

DCS approved us to keep Jenna for now ... thank GOD we got there in time so that she wasn't put in foster care! It is only good until Dec. 27 but the DCS worker said that it will most likely be extended at that time. I just hope and pray that they never let Chad come and get her either!

I am so frazzled right now, please pray for us.

[catfamily]

OMG! Kim...I'm so so sorry.This is horrible to say the least.She is NOT doing the right thing...like we assumed she WAS doing the right thing..
You have so much on your plate Kim..I wish I could help you in some way.
You have all the cats...now a new baby living under your care...and you now have to worry about what's going to happen in the future with your daughter and if they eventually put your granddaughrer in foster care.I hope it never comes to that.I PRAY it never comes to that.
Prayers...extra for you and your family from Maine.I hope they work.

[kittycats_delight]

Oh Kim, I don't even know what to say. I am soooo soooo very sorry. Know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope something good finally comes out of this. Poor little Jenna. Thank God she has you. Be strong I know it is hard but you are the only strength Jenna has. So be strong for her. And in turn we will be strong for you.


((((HUGS))))
Again I am sooo sorry for all this nightmare.

[Daisy and Delilah]

I feel so bad for you and Jenna, Kim!! I'll keep you all in my thoughts and prayers

I can't imagine the stress you're going through but it's got to be next to impossible to live like this. Keep the faith sweetie!!

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

OMG ....... what the heck was Amy Beth thinking???? NO thinking here, no doubt about that ...! How could she leave a 2 year old alone with drugs on the counter . No excuse for that, you took the right decision about NOT bailing her out!
Poor little Jenna, I feel so sorry for this sweet innoscent little girl... . But at least she is safe now, she is with her dearest grandma now , someone who loves her VERY much!

You are all in my prayers, Kimmie!!

[kuhio98]

Dear sweet Kim. All I can say is that I think Amy Beth is in the right place. She needs to stay there. And, Jenna is in the right place. She needs to stay with you.

You are in our thoughts and prayers.

[jazzcat]

OMG Kim! I can't believe how bad this has turned. I think you did the right thing in not bailing her out. She needs help and hopefully this will help her realize it.

You're in my prayers.

[shais_mom]

OMG Kim! I can't believe how bad this has turned. I think you did the right thing in not bailing her out. She needs help and hopefully this will help her realize it.

You're in my prayers.

I am in shock
you did the right thing for not bailing her.

[sirrahved]

Kim,

I'm crying right now for you and your situation. This is unimaginable to me! I pray that she will be ordered to parenting classes and that everything will work out for the best.

What I wouldn't give for a child to care for!

[Kfamr]

I really want to cry for you, especially after looking at Jenna's sweet sleeping pictures. I know all too well a similar situation like this - my friend and her baby daughter. She never ended up going to jail (although she should have) but it was the same situation - abusive baby's daddy, drugs, wasting money, etc.
Except, she isn't as fortunate as Amy Beth. Her family was very abusive towards her but still turned around and bailed her out. She still needs to learn after a year or so of this happening, just like Amy Beth, and it's a great thing you are allowing her to learn. Sometime down her path she will thank you for this, I am sure.

I am so glad Jenna is in your loving care. She is a very beatiful little girl. I want to give her a great big hug.

[Karen]

You are in our prayers, Kim, you know that, but I wanted to say it publicly as well. Amy Beth has been given every chance, and has now blown them all. I am glad that Jenna is safe with you through Christmas. I hope and pray that Amy uses this chance to get rehab and straighten her life out, but am glad that Jenna will be safe with you in the meantime.

[Laura's Babies]

Kim, these kids seem to make the all the wrong decisions in their youth and inmaturity and we can't help but wonder what they are thinking sometimes with the things they do. For some reason, this is a lesson she needed and I am 100% behind you on refusing to get her out of jail. THAT alone may do her more good than anything you have ever done for her.

Hang in there and keep praying for her (and I will add my prayers for her to yours) and someday, she will grow up and be the adult you know she can be.

[sasvermont]

Kim, that baby should not be with her mother. Her mother needs to go in to rehab ASAP. I suspect the child will be taken from her eventually if things keep up the way they are going.

Tough love, my dear, though love. I think that's what your daughter needs.

My gosh. Such a horror and such a horror for Jenna.

[anna_66]

Oh man, I can't even say how sad & angry it makes me that she left her child alone. I'm glad you and your husband have custody. Times like this make me glad I don't have any children

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[molucass]

I am sorry I haven't responded before now, but please know that I have been keeping you and Jenna in my prayers since I first read this thread.

I don't even know what to say in a situation like this, but I did want to tell you that I am continuing to pray for you and your family.