Well, I guess you need to be sure you are not trying to "replace," that any new addition will be loved for himself / herself. As a member of PT, you know there are many wonderful kitties looking for a great home.

When I lost Amber, I couldn't think about another cat for months, and I couldn't understand how anyone could get another pet a short time after losing one. When I lost Dazzle, I needed - yeah, NEEDED - to have a new little one right away. Like, 6 weeks later. So each loss is different, just as each of us deals with each loss differently.

Don't feel guilty for your feelings; they are YOUR feelings. No one can make this decision but you. I think maybe you are doing it right, though. You are not acting on impulse, but really considering how you feel.

Best wishes.