i don't know what a pollyanna is? who is jay and how old is he? and now that it's beyond clear that your SILs are not good about time issues, tell them anything is a half hour earlier then it is, if you plan on having future contact with them. and may i suggest at christmas, you travel with your 4 in one car, your hubby inanother, so if HE wants to stay at his parents when the SILS go nuts again (and they will) you and yours can leave and go back to your home for an family celebration. ((HUGS)) to you, dysFUNctional familys' put the FUN in the holidays, almost