Spook got really miffed at me when I was trying to clear up the thing on her eye...she hid under the bed for a week
Talking to her softly and letting her deal with it on her terms helped. Its hard not to over love, but try to let Abby dictate what she can and can't handle. With a few extra treats and some soft gentle words, I think she will be comfortable with you in no time!

Cats have this habbit of overreacting and its difficult to convince them that their way isnt exactly the right way! But time and patence will do wonders