If you ever want to be able to hold her, you need to start now, and hold for a little while every day, so she gets used to it, and she knows she is safe when you hold her.

I did that with Miss Hoppy since we got her as a small bunny, so when I hold her, she is calm and happy. When Paul even just picks her up, she is miserable - at worst, she freezes and plays "dead bunny" - but as soon as she's with me, she calms right down.