Major Worries! IT's EVEN WORSE!!!

**kimlovescats** · 11-30-2006, 03:21 PM

Originally Posted by borzoimom

She needs a restaining order to herself and her property. Every incident call the police... EVERY SINGLE ONE. And they can finger print it too. Next time tell her dont touch it- but I would not wait until a "next time" .

She filed for the restraining order yesterday, and the judge approved it. Unfortunately it takes a few days before it is served.

They have a court date on December 7th for that! The court date for the assault charges are January 2nd.

**borzoimom** · 11-30-2006, 03:38 PM

Originally Posted by kimlovescats

She filed for the restraining order yesterday, and the judge approved it. Unfortunately it takes a few days before it is served.

They have a court date on December 7th for that! The court date for the assault charges are January 2nd.

Good- then all she has to do with an approved restraining order is call and see she got another letter. If nothing else- it goes into the pile for the charges or sentencing etc.

**catfamily** · 11-30-2006, 05:47 PM

OMG!!! I'm so sorry I'm just reading ALL of this.What a sick situation.I hope and WILL be praying MANY prayers for your daughter,grandaughter,you,your hubby,and the rest of your family.You'll need all the prayers you can get.I went through a very similar situation with my ex-husband and it was so horrible I still have nightmares 15 years later.
I do hope they take prints for later.And of course your daughter seems extra smart with everything she's done so far.Good for her.You should be so proud of her for calling the police right away.I know you are and I know how scared you are.God,there's not much to say here Kim.I just need to tell you that I'm in BIG fear for her and all involved's lives here.This is more serious than imaginable.Things DO happen,and FEAR is necessary.
Prayers,Prayers,Prayers on the way.

**rg_girlca** · 11-30-2006, 06:46 PM

Kim, just letting you know that prayers are still on the way that you and your family stay safe.

One question though. Since you know your daughter, do you think that there might be a slim chance that she might want to get back together with him if he continues to sweet talk her or is she seeing him for what he really is and wants nothing more to do with him?

**kittycats_delight** · 11-30-2006, 06:58 PM

kim, I have been following all the horrible situation your daugther is going through and I just don't know what to say. The guy is sick and he scares me so I can only imagine the horror you and Amy Beth must feel. Please know my thought and prayers are with your entire family. I hope everything works out for your daugther and your granddaugther.

((((HUGS))))
Michelle

**kimlovescats** · 11-30-2006, 08:35 PM

Originally Posted by rg_girlca

Kim, just letting you know that prayers are still on the way that you and your family stay safe.

One question though. Since you know your daughter, do you think that there might be a slim chance that she might want to get back together with him if he continues to sweet talk her or is she seeing him for what he really is and wants nothing more to do with him?

Lorraine, that is exactly what he is trying to do. It HAS worked several times in the past. This time, she knows better and she knows from many times before that he just does it to gain control again. He goes right back to his old ways of mistreating her and doing whatever he wants to do. He just wants to avoid a divorce and CHILD SUPPORT!!!!

An interesting fact that we learned yesterday: The domestic violence director told her that because Jenna was born out of wedlock, Chad does not have custody of her or claim to her at all. Even though he is her father and signed her birth certificate and married Amy Beth a year later ... it doesn't matter, because she was born out of wedlock! In order to claim her and fight for any custody rights, he would have to pay for a paternity test! NO WAY he would do that!!!! This was a very important piece of information for us ... and anyone on here who has given birth out of wedlock!

**borzoimom** · 11-30-2006, 09:13 PM

He can not get custody of the child if out of wedlock but he can get visitation rights- however- also end up paying child support.. uh huh...

**kimlovescats** · 12-01-2006, 04:20 PM

Ok, the detective working on Amy Beth's case called her this morning. She told her to go to the Sheriff's Department and have THEM call the detective. Then SHE would tell them what he did regarding the note and they would issue a warrant for his arrest. Thankfully, the detective and someone else called right as we got there, and the warrant was taken out! He should be served today (hopefully) and arrested again! The bad side is that he can STILL bail out again! GRRRRRR! I don't understand how when someone violates their bond agreement, they can turn around and bond out again!

This time it will be set at $20,000 ... but that means he only has to come up with $2,000.00. That is ANOTHER thing I don't understand ... what is the point of setting it at a high amount when everyone only has to actually pay 10%???? Can anyone shed some light on this for me ... I am so sick of him being able to get right back out again!

Amy Beth thinks he probably has the money in the bank .... as he loves to brag about all of his "drug money"!

SURELY he will run out eventually, if momma quits bailing him out. *sigh*