Kim,

I'd keep an eye on Ashley. She sounds WAY too stressed out. Yelling at an infant is not a good sign. I hope your SIL's can talk some sense into her. She sounds like she definitely needs a wake up call.

I also think that Caseysmom is right. Just wait till he's old enough to pick out his own clothes. THAT should be a definitely experience.

Hang in there Nana Kim.