^^exactly

get her a crate, your life will be way easier.

my dog used to pee all the time as a knee jerk reaction ( even if i looked at her wrong, lol) but now she knows i am not going to punish her, and if she needs to go all she has to do is let me know.

occasionally there are accidents, like when the mantenance guy came over for the yearly inspection and i grabbed her by the collar real fast to get her in her cage and keep her from running out the door, well lets say she must have had to go poopy, because thats what happened, lol.

basically you have to not make a big deal out of the mess, just make sure that she understands you are home and happy to see her, and aren't concerned about anything, my dog knows when i get home the first thing i am going to do is give her kisses and let her out.