Everyone has such good advice, but it's so hard to explain all the "why's" as to how some of them won't work, or how I've tried some of them. Let me try to cover a few of the main points that have been mentioned.
When Amy Beth called me and "confessed" these things to me, she was with her "husband" at the time. I didn't know it at the time, but when I almost had her convinced to let me take her to a hospital, she said she needed to talk to him first. I asked if he was there, and she said yes! I was shocked! It is after she got off the phone and "talked it over" with him, that her tune changed. I'm still not too sure of what this whole confession was intended to accomplishment. I have a strong feeling that she was forced by him to make this call. My reasoning on this, is that he has always been quick to call me immediately when they were having problems and "tattle-tale" to me about my daughter. So very childish, whether the things were true or not. Some of the horrible things she "confessed" to this week, were things he told me over a year ago in one of his "tattle-tale" phone calls. A couple of days after that initial phone call, after they had "made up", he called and apologized, saying he had lied and that it was wrong. As much as I would have loved to believed that he made the things up, they sounded too "possible" to me, and I guess my mother's intuition told my heart that they were really true. He apparently felt bad about snitching on her and tried to rectify the situation with a lie. So ..... apparently as some sort of bargaining power over her in their newest attempt to reconcile, he forced her to "confess" to me. I'm sure that he does this because he knows how I feel about him and his criminal record, and misery loves company!
Another concern of mine, is that they are trying to move from their little rental house into an apartment in the next week or so. The reason being that some guy threatened to harm Amy Beth when she decided to move back in. He was under the influence of drugs at the time, and they were hiding from him out of fear. Supposedly he has since "apologized" while sober, but they feel the need to move where fewer of their "friends" and "acquaintances" can find them! This alone tells me they are dealing with some dangerous people!!!!!
Trust me, I want to call so badly!!! I want to put this off on DCS so much, put it into the control of a system that knows how to handle it. My biggest fear though, is that they will find nothing of any real proof, and all I will accomplish is losing my daughter and my grandbaby!!!!! I don't want baby Jenna to go into a foster home either. That poor child never knows where she is going to be sleeping from one night to the next as it is! She has terrible nightmares all night long at every place she sleeps!!! Can you imagine what it feels like to have your grandbaby screaming and pleading in words that you can't even understand, right beside you in your bed ... and be powerless to help her! I just hold her and rock her and try to make her feel secure, until the next night when she is dragged somewhere else!
Also, Amy Beth just found another good job (CNA) and seems so hopeful that things are going to be better. I know it is another delusion, and it won't change, but I can't betray her just yet. I have to let her see that things aren't going to change, and then give her an ultimatum .... go into rehab or I call DCS. The other factor though, is even is SHE gets help, it won't change her husband. There is always a brick wall at every turn.
Kim
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