I'm so sorry to hear this Kim. You must be ready to collapse under this pressure. My heart goes out to you. I agree that someone needs to report this situation before it's too late. Some good advice has been given here. I also agree that your daughter needs to get away from this man. He sounds far too toxic and dangerous. It's easy for me to say this but not so easy to accomplish the right way. I understand completely.

I have a friend that has a sister with a very similar situation. Her daughter lived a life very much like you've described. With a young daughter in the house, she continued to hang out with the wrong crowd, use drugs, and generally ignore the fact that her child was present. My friend's sister(Grandmother of the little girl), took the child away from her daughter to save her from this life. She fought day and night, tooth and nail, until she gained custody of the child. The little girl is now a beautiful 12 year old, still living with her Grandmother, and living a wonderful, well adjusted, life. The girl's Mom finally gave up life in the fast lane, had another baby, and settled down. Bottom line....I believe you do have the rights to save Jenna from harm as her Grandmother. I don't know how your state laws work but I wish you all the best. My heart breaks for you. Please keep us updated. You'll all be in my thoughts and prayers.

I have to mention something. In the fact that your daughter is having such a hard time due to the absence in of her Dad in her life; maybe you could mention to her that she needs to take heed to that and look around to see what she's doing to her daughter by living like this. {{{{HUGS}}}}