Terribly worried about my daughter and grandbaby! *UPDATE Page 3*

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kim, I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. Please take care. (((HUGS)))

[Pawsitive Thinking]

OMG! At least your daughter "confessed" to you which is a good first step. Sounds like she'd be better off without her husband in the picture.

If you fear for little Jenna's safety you have every right to take whatever action you need. She needs your protection right now.

[borzoimom]

oh dear Lord.. I can help but not on this forum. Send me a private message..

[Bengalz]

Kim,

There are so many people here ready and willing to give you all the support you need = emotionally and spiritually. You're in a tough situation and need the courage to act on it. Your daughter is clearly not able to make constructive decisions concerning herself or her child.

Although I have no solid advice to offer, you certainly have my thoughts and prayers, please take care.

Betty

[mustlovedogs]

How awful this must be for you! I am so sorry that this happened- hopefully everything works out soon! You will be in our thoughts and prayers- good luck with whatever happens!

[QueenScoopalot]

Kim you are one of PTs sweetest people, and you must be so torn up over all this. My biggest fear right now would be what if baby Jenna got her hands on the substances your daughter and deadbeat husband are taking? Children are so curious by nature that even the thought of that precious little girl being exposed to drugs is scary, and even worse is what if she consumes some herself? I think an intervention is critical at this point in order to protect Amy Beth & Jenna. Her husband sounds like he will never change, and your daughter & grandbaby need to get away from him fast. Keep the faith Kim, and prayers for your family that help will come fast before it's all too late. (((HUGS)))

[kimlovescats]

Well, Amy Beth left her husband AGAIN! She and baby Jenna moved back in with me this past weekend. She is working full-time as a CNA for an assisted living nursing home here in town. She works 2nd shift, so I put the baby to bed at night. I am very stressed having them here again, and it's not at all what I *want*, but at least I know that they are both safe.

Amy Beth convinced me that she was not *using* drugs on a regular basis ... basically just playing around with different ones as they were available. I know she certainly has no money for them now, and I know she isn't *hooked* at least for now either. I just pray that she never uses that mess again!!!! I won't be nieve though and assume she never will.

I know most of you probably think I am still enabling her by letting her move back, but the ONLY reason if because of Jenna. Trust me, I WANT my life back, time for me and hubby, and not to be raising an "adult" child and grandbaby. I just don't know what else to do at this point. The word "trapped" comes to mind.

[borzoimom]

Well, Amy Beth left her husband AGAIN! She and baby Jenna moved back in with me this past weekend. She is working full-time as a CNA for an assisted living nursing home here in town. She works 2nd shift, so I put the baby to bed at night. I am very stressed having them here again, and it's not at all what I *want*, but at least I know that they are both safe.

Amy Beth convinced me that she was not *using* drugs on a regular basis ... basically just playing around with different ones as they were available. I know she certainly has no money for them now, and I know she isn't *hooked* at least for now either. I just pray that she never uses that mess again!!!! I won't be nieve though and assume she never will.

I know most of you probably think I am still enabling her by letting her move back, but the ONLY reason if because of Jenna. Trust me, I WANT my life back, time for me and hubby, and not to be raising an "adult" child and grandbaby. I just don't know what else to do at this point. The word "trapped" comes to mind.

Actually I think letting her come into your home, where you can monitor what is going on is a good thing. I am sure she understands no drugs in the house, and working regular hours, you know she isnt getting them at work. Sounds like an improvement to me. And you are right- the baby is safer!

[Karen]

Can you work with a social worker, to find Amy Beth a place of her own, away from the abuser, but not dependent on you?

At least Jenna will have some stability for the next little while. Does your family have a pastor that Amy Beth might trust for some counseling, because having her NOT go back to the wretch may be very, very difficult.

[Pam]

Kim, this post was good news to me. I would want her under my roof and AWAY from that loser, no matter how inconvenient things are right now. Kids move out and come back (it happened to me with my son after his divorce and he's still here. ) I would never accuse you of enabling her. If anything, you are freeing her from the influence of this guy and providing a safe healthy environment for your granddaughter. There will be time for you and hubby to be on your own. Right now your daughter needs you, even if it is mainly for purely financial reasons at the moment. Nevertheless, she is there every day and you can observe her and help care for Jenna. Once she gets her life and career on track she will probably want to find her own place (hopefully without him). Prayers still going up for you Kim and your situation. (((hugs)))