You do not have to change for other people...you must simply accept the consequences of your choice.

The reality is we judge people all the time by the "outside." Suggesting that employers...or people in general not do so is simply silly and possible dangerous.

If I see someone coming down the street with a gun....I don't think I will take the time to find out what is on the inside.

Judging by what you see is a survival skill.

Isn't that what you did in your example? Judging people by your perception of the looks they have when seeing you?

Employers want...and have the right to expect...employees who behave a certain way, can talk and write correctly, can follow direction, etc. They want someone who is capable of performing the job that needs to be done. And that may mean not scaring off the customers.

They don't care what is on the inside. That is for your friends and lovers.