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[Argranade]

The hard fact is people judge you by your look, your words, your attitude, and your actions. If you feel everything is going wrong in your life right now, look inwards first then see if its something you can change. If its not, then you need to adapt to whatever circumstances life gave you and rise above it.

That's the problem people only see what's on the outside & not the inside.

I like to wear black alot, sometime's people give me good looks then other time's it looks like there going to start getting mad at me, I have tried changing my colours more now so I won't get those looks.

I realy don't want to change my self for other people, I think thats silly.

It's not fair because of some tatoo's or piercings that young people can't get a job they want in life or would enjoy, In a way I find it very offensive because I would like a few tatoos when I get a bit older.

[JenBKR]

It's not fair because of some tatoo's or piercings that young people can't get a job they want in life or would enjoy, In a way I find it very offensive because I would like a few tatoos when I get a bit older.

Unfortunately, life is not fair. That's a hard lesson to learn. However, employeers have every right to not hire you because of piercings or tattoos. It is something that you just have to consider when you get the piercings and tattoos. Employeers want a professional looking environment, and in order to get that they need a professional looking staff. That's just life.

[Argranade]

Unfortunately, life is not fair. That's a hard lesson to learn. However, employeers have every right to not hire you because of piercings or tattoos. It is something that you just have to consider when you get the piercings and tattoos. Employeers want a professional looking environment, and in order to get that they need a professional looking staff. That's just life.

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Know what's weird,

The Wal-mart here has workers with coloured hair,Liberty spikes, periced lips ect... so why can't Alicia work there?! it's very strange indeed I don't get it.

[JenBKR]

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Know what's weird,

The Wal-mart here has workers with coloured hair,Liberty spikes, periced lips ect... so why can't Alicia work there?! is very strange indeed.

It probably has to do with the managers at that particular Wal-mart. I have never seen any real obvious piercings or tattoos or anything like that at any employees at my local wal-mart...then again, I never really looked so maybe they do and I just never noticed.

[critter crazy]

It probably has to do with the managers at that particular Wal-mart. I have never seen any real obvious piercings or tattoos or anything like that at any employees at my local wal-mart...then again, I never really looked so maybe they do and I just never noticed.

Yeah here at ours it is not allowed either! They are even going to a dress code, come January! Blue shirts and Khaki Pants!

[critter crazy]

Its not that you are being told that you cannot have a tattoo or a piercing, it is just that you have to look at everything before you make this decision. I have 3 tattoos and a piercing and I have chosen to place them in areas where it will not be distasteful, and where they can be hidden if need be. You have to look at the whole picture! Even when joining the army, you are not allowed to have tattoos in certain areas or piercings! It is just the way it is!

[cmayer31]

I was a hiring manager for years and many companies have policy and procedure that lists what is and is not acceptable. In general if a position requires contact with the general public then piercings, not including ear piercings, must be removed or appropriately covered. Tattoos must be covered as well. In some cases the tattoo policy is less strict based on the appropriateness of the tattoo and the location; this is however determined by the manager and specific company.

The issue is that not everyone likes tattoos or piercings. For example, an elderly customer might not want help or to even associate with someone with visible piercings or numerous tattoos. Most restaurants are the same, that's why you'll notice servers with wraps on their arms. They are hiding their tattoos. One of my good friends puts a band-aid over her nose ring every day when she goes to work.

It's just the way it is. There are plenty of positions that are less strict on dress and appearance codes, but you have to find them and often they require more advanced degrees, such as office / research / field positions. Other places have been mentioned such as "trendy" merchandisers that are more than happy to allow piercings and tattoos.

[Edwina's Secretary]

You do not have to change for other people...you must simply accept the consequences of your choice.

The reality is we judge people all the time by the "outside." Suggesting that employers...or people in general not do so is simply silly and possible dangerous.

If I see someone coming down the street with a gun....I don't think I will take the time to find out what is on the inside.

Judging by what you see is a survival skill.

Isn't that what you did in your example? Judging people by your perception of the looks they have when seeing you?

Employers want...and have the right to expect...employees who behave a certain way, can talk and write correctly, can follow direction, etc. They want someone who is capable of performing the job that needs to be done. And that may mean not scaring off the customers.

They don't care what is on the inside. That is for your friends and lovers.

[Pam]

I realy don't want to change my self for other people, I think thats silly.

It's not fair because of some tatoo's or piercings that young people can't get a job they want in life or would enjoy, In a way I find it very offensive because I would like a few tatoos when I get a bit older.

Sorry but I am not going to cry with you over this. My sister-in-law is a teacher in a school. She teaches gifted and talented kids in special programs. She was told to stop wearing the cross that she always wears around her neck. Did she think it was unjust and wrong? Yes. Did she stop? Yes. She wanted to keep her job. This was not a fashion statement she was making. This was part of who she is, and reflected her faith. I think tatoos and piercings don't even begin to get into that category and that topic probably belongs in the Dog House.

[dab_20]

I agree with most everyone here. Some of those problems that your going through could be prevented. Like how your behind in homework. Having lunch with friends should not be a reason for you to skip class. You are upset that your behind on homework, but YOU are the one who didn't go to class. Spend more time on your homework then on PT, then once you get caught up you can be on here as much as you want- without any worries!

And there are no excuses for being rude. I understand you are trying to apologize, and that's great of you. I am going through alot of things right now, too, and I try my hardest to not take it out on others. It helps to talk to someone about it, whether it's a friend, your parents, a counsler, etc.

The PTrs who are giving you a hard time, just ignore them! You can put them on your ignore list or talk to Karen about it.

I left PT when I first joined because I was upset that people replied to my posts something other then I wanted to hear. I was defensive because I just didn't want to hear other opinions, or rather the truth. I took a good look at my posts and realized I was being very rude and immature. I'm not saying you are... it just sometimes helps to take a break.

Some new PTrs may not know or understand what the different sections are for. That's no reason to get angry, we all were somewhat confused when we first joined. It takes a bit of time to learn.

Well, I know I pretty much repeated what many others said so I'll stop here. Hope you feel better and get everything worked out.