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[Daisy and Delilah]

buttercup-I really think it took guts on your part to come forward and explain your reasons for rudeness. Thanks to the nice PT'er that PM'd you. That was a great effort on their part to keep peace among our community members here. After saying that; I agree with Kim(catnapper) in saying that things will only get worse as you get older. It's unfortunate but true. Yes, believe it, you'll look back on what you're going through now and it will be known in the future as "some of the best days of your life". Paying a phone bill will be nothing compared to paying rent/mortgage, water bill, car payment, car insurance, clothing costs for your family, food costs, childcare expenses, electric bill, heating fuel bill, gasoline bill, medical bills(doctors, prescriptions, hospital bills), etc. etc., in addition to the phone bill. I'm sorry but that's only part of it.
It really bothers me that you seem to think that everyone should know everything about this board. I was here for over two years before I knew anything besides commenting on DOTD. Give people a break. They have to learn. Just because you know where things are, doesn't mean everyone else does.
I'm really sorry that you couldn't have said something nice to Tim about his kid's pictures. Those are his children for heaven's sake. Some day you might have children too. How would you feel if someone didn't even acknowledge the pictures of your beautiful children that you're so proud of? He was so happy to share his children with all of us and what did he get from you? A cold response that indicated he was posting in the wrong area. Put yourself in his place. While I'm on this subject. This isn't the first rude comment you've made to other members. Correct me if I'm wrong fellow PT'ers, but, your rudeness started a long long time ago.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're having problems. We all have problems. Some days I'm lucky to be able to walk into the kitchen to get my pain pills for the terrible arthritis I suffer from. We have many members here with similar or worse problems than I have. That's just one of my problems but believe me, there are many. I just choose not to elaborate here. I'll just say this, I could tell you stories that could curl your hair. Now, having said that, no matter how many hardships I have or how many difficult things I've been through or are going through, I try to manage to be cordial, respectful, and thoughtful as much as I possibly can be. I may feel lousy but I always try to have a good word for all of our community members.
I apologize if I've offended you or anyone else here. I have kept my mouth shut as long as I can. I hope your problems get straightened out and you can become a happier person. My biggest piece of advice to you.....enjoy your life now, while you're young. Be thankful for what you have, buckle down and get that school work done. Stop skipping classes and improve your situation. You have to do it yourself. No one can do it for you.

[mugsy]

I'm going to get myself in trouble here, but, here goes...

This crap is the reason I left Pet Talk for over a year. As of now, I will just stick to posting the transports and move on.

I am tired of excuses for bad behavior. I deal with it everyday at school with the kids...it's always someone else's fault and I'm tired. If you act badly, apologize and move on. Don't give excuses...just apologize...

As my best friend told me once (and I REALLY deserved it): "As Dr Phil would say, 'build a bridge and get over it!'" I know it's harsh, but, it's the reality of the thing.

[Lori Jordan]

I'm sorry you have been having problems,we all do life is most the time far from normal.But that does not give you the right to be iggnorant to people,That is no excuse,And you have been this way to me for a long time so what is your excuse for that? i'm not trying to start a fight but i am going to speak my mind.
In all the post around here you say nice things,When i post something instead of saying you have nice dogs.You add a ?,and most times are rude but i never say anything,Reason it dont look good when a 35 year old is fighting with a 15 year old,As too people posting in the wrong places,I have done it many times,it is a simple mistake there is no reason for getting mad,People do make mistakes it is human.

I hope that everything falls into place for you,Life is hard,But we are better people from the problems we have had and worked through them,But if you snap at people all the time(and yes i have blown my top).But i can admit to my issues and move on.But in the long run no one will be there for you in the end if you treat them with no respect,You say you notice you have been snappy lately,Think about the people that are not even involved getting snapped at they do not deserve it and it is not fair if you take your problems out on people that no one can fix for you,Your the only one that can fix your problems.
Now with that being said.If your having a bad day do something that calms you,Something that can clear you mind,You have animals they are the best healers,They are the only ones that you can count on in these situations they never turn there back on you,Start spending time with them,and you will see how much happier you are,Trust me it works.....Good luck.hope everything will start getting better.

[sasvermont]

I think many folks never learn good coping skills and/or survival skills. I think parents teach them to you, yes? Having said that, I would go to a school counselor or professional counselor and ask for help. They will teach you how to deal with issues, how to keep on track with your school work and will most likely be the support you need. You need to do the work though. They can only give you direction - like we are trying to do.

Life is short, play hard!

And if the shoe fits, use spell check (advice for everyone here)....the IeSpell thing is wonderful! Thank you....... to the person recommending it. It makes me look brilliant now!

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Add the annoying pm'ers to your ignore list then do precisely that with any of their threads - ignore them! Do not reply however tempting it is

So, people post things in the wrong place? If it was a real problem Karen and Paul would deal with it

Don't struggle with school work - get some help and advice

and finally, you've done a good thing here recognising that you have problems and what is causing them - some people go through life never admitting to a single mistake.

Learn to like you again, we all do

[trayi52]

I agree with the people here at Pet Talk. If you are jumping on our cases, what are you doing to the people that surround you physically? Just wondering.

Don't spend so much time here young lady, if you are so behind on your homework, go right now, and start on that homework! I am 53 years old and have raised three kids, they done their homework before they started anything else!

Maybe you do need to see a counselor, they can help a lot. Hope you get your life straightened out.

Willie

[Pam]

I'm really sorry that you couldn't have said something nice to Tim about his kid's pictures. Those are his children for heaven's sake. Some day you might have children too. How would you feel if someone didn't even acknowledge the pictures of your beautiful children that you're so proud of? He was so happy to share his children with all of us and what did he get from you? A cold response that indicated he was posting in the wrong area. Put yourself in his place.

D&D, what a beautiful reply. I hope that Buttercup will take a lot of the advice that you gave. The bottom line is "Do unto others." When you are about to say something critical just think about how you would feel being on the receiving end of that comment.

BC I noticed that in your apology, which was a first big step by the way, you mentioned having trouble with some friends and at home. I suspect that the personality that you have projected here is pretty much the personality that you display everywhere. You might want to take a good hard internal look at yourself and see what it is that you are doing to bring on these problems.

Laying out the problems that you have as sort of an excuse for your behavior takes away from your apology. When we apologize, and mean it, we aren't hiding behind anything. We are simply saying "I am sorry. I was wrong. Please forgive me. Period."

I don't want to bring your parents into this, because often parents are blamed for the behavior of their children, but kids who are old enough to post here are certainly old enough to have carved out their own thinking/behavior. I do feel, though, that kindness is something that needs to be learned at home and at a young age.

My advice would be to give your studies 100% of your time. You will be very glad in the years to come. Also, stop making excuses about why you can't work here and why you can't work there. There may come a time when you are an adult, and your job has been dissolved due to downsizing and you find yourself at a job you hate just to put food on the table in the interim. It happens to people all the time. The ability to get along with people and adapt to change comes with maturity. You are not too old to still have a few things yet to learn.

(((Hugs))) to you D&D. I had no idea of the pain you live with. You are one of my favorite PTers and your cheerful attitude and sweetness shines through despite what may be going on behind the scenes.

[K9soul]

Terry and Pam spoke my thoughts as if they were reading my mind. I wasn't going to say anything about this, I certainly have enough to deal with without getting involved in any kind of debate or conflict, but what I have to say is simply advice, take it or leave it.

No matter what you are going through, how hard things are, you will feel better about yourself and the world if you make a point to be kind and compassionate to others. If you are feeling pain, anger, frustration, stress, then taking a moment to just say a kind word or show understanding for someone can help heal the burden you carry. The more you do this, the more it will come back on you, and you will find yourself enjoying life more, and able to handle things much easier that before made you miserable. When I am stressed and down, and snap at someone, I only feel that much worse. But if I turn that around and try to put a smile on someone's face or be a shoulder to lean on instead, I feel uplifted and stronger inside.

[My Peanuts]

I'm not going to attack you but you need to understand that every single person on PT can make a list like yours. It's no excuse to snap at people. We ALL have problems and stressful situations.

God forbid you have to deal with something like deaths in the family, divorce or even cancer. There are PTers dealing with all that and they are as sweet as pie. This list is a bunch of excuses.

Also, the thing about people posting in the wrong sections, GET OVER IT. It's really not a big deal. People make mistakes. Of all the things you listed, that one makes me laugh. If something like that really bothers you then EVERYTHING must bother you.

You have problems, I have problems. Please try to work out your problems with the people you have them with and don't take it out on innocent people.