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    What ever happened to manners?

    I get so anoyed with rude posts. I don't know the ages of these folks doing the nasty posting, but I suspect the ages are all over the place, not just young or old.

    Maybe these people don't have a good command of the English language and resort to obnoxious, ill-bred methods of communication.

    I will confess to a few short comments, since being here for a few years....but in general, I would like to believe I have given many an honest and colorful response - sometimes direct, but I have not wanted to be hurtful.

    I just PM'ed one person, asking why she is being so mean to people. I doubt if I will get a response.

    Some folks are just miserable most of the time. I am miserable just a little bit of the time. Most days are happy ones for me and I hope that comes through in my posts!

    PT is a wonderful place to spend time and I hope that for the newcomers, topics like this will keep them looking and posting. It is sooooo typical of a forum to have its ups and downs. We have mostly UPS!

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    This is mostly the reason why I dont post very much anymore. The thought of having to deal with rudeness, or just defend myself is rediculous! I try my best to be as nice as I can, And I dont think I have ever been rude to anyone. If I have I greatly appologize. I Dont reply to most threads much either, because people just are too defensive of someoes Opinions. It is very hurtful. I would love to post more, without the fear of being torn apart. Cyber-Sibes you have said everything, that i have been wanting to for a while. I just wish I could say it as well as you have!
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    I know exactly what you mean. Had that experience just recently with the last thread I recently put up! It really offended me! Wow! Say something nice for Gods sake!

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    Maybe this method of dealing with it would work....

    I once had a job where I was dealing with 40 secretaries and paralegals. I was new to the job. I was hired to put out "employment fires" and to convert their antiquated accounting software.

    The first meeting I had with the 40 folks was interesting. I handed out forms/ questionnaires, and asked that they fill in honest responses to my questions about how they thought people spent their time on the job and recommendations for improvements. The forms were not to be signed, although names of other employees could be used within the form. I told them that the forms would never be shown to anyone - for my eyes only. I didn't really know anyone, so it was a real eye-opener for me. I was amazed at the comments about fellow employees. I worked there almost 10 years and you know what, most of the comments were accurate. I never showed the forms to anyone. I kept my promise.

    So.....maybe Karen would like some confidential emails or Pm's, with everyone's idea about who is doing the most damage here, and who should be called on the carpet.

    Just an idea.

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    I just thought I'd add that I was really nervous about putting up my "wish me luck" thread, but so far I've gotten the nicest responses. In general, PT rocks.

    Thank you Wolf_Q!

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    SAS,

    Great idea.

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    I hear ya. I try not to be rude to anyone and try to be as nice as possible. so can't we all please get along ?! this place isn't the same as it used to be. I am so sick of the bickering and being rude to others. we are like a family and we should treat each and everyone of our fellow pt'ers with respect. of course everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I just hope the nastiness stops.
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    I feel Everyone should beable to express their own Opinions without people being rude to them, not everyone is the same and some people might not agree with what others agree with but i feel they should never be mean to someone because they believe in something else or dont agree with what someone else does.

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    I have said this before, and will say it again: If there is a person, or a thread you are thinking of in particular PM ME! I am the moderator let me do my job. I prefer to do so behind the scenes, and in fact have already spoken to the person and the thread to which I know the orginal post is referring.

    This is Pet Talk - where everyone should be polite and respectful. We can be respectful even when disagreeing with someone.

    I prefer to handle things like rudeness behind the scenes, why, I know at least one person in this thread had gotten a PM from me regarding such in the past.

    NEVER post angry. If you are angry, you will say things you should not. If you have an issue with a person, handle it privately, throughe mail or PM, or bring me into it. If a post makes you angry, don;t respond immediately -- take a dog for a walk, go skitch a kitty, do something else calming, then come back and type a response. Or another approach is to type up an angry response, but NOT post it. Email or PM it to youself, then let it sit for a couple hours. If you then reread it, and it seems reasonable, and not rude, THEN post it.

    There is no excuse for not minding manners. We cannot all be perfect all of the time, but we can at least try.

    What I often remind people is that this is Pet Talk - we are all here because we love pets. That separates us from the rest of humanity, but in a good way, so we should respect each other for that, despite our differences.

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    As cyber-sibes pointed out, I too was raised with " The Golden Rule" and my Dad told me: "If you can't say something nice, don't say anthing at all"

    I suppose I could also add that "family values" were a lot different while I was growing up~ but, I will not excuse anyone who berates another Pet Talk Member with snide remarks, nor, will I post on a thread that appears to be getting out of hand. (unless to say, "Take 5", of course)

    There are incidents that have really made me feel so bad for the other guy~ and so~ I just avoid reading such threads altogether~


    This forum is absolutley Wonderful and I know I couldn't go through a day without it.
    I just wish that some people would simply bite their tongues ( or chew their nails) or just "ask": This is what I think you said

    I'm glad Cyber-sibes created this thread, I was too chicken to do it!!
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    Downright rude threads!

    Oh yes I so aggree Cyber-sibes .. I just read the post on that thread you spoke of && thought I wanted to ??? two people on there.. I was raised in the older days when RESPECT TO OTHER REALY MEANT SOMETHING.. Thank you so much for this thread..

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    I try my best not to come across as rude in every single one of of my posts, but sometimes people will take what I say the wrong way...as I'm sure happens with many others here. However, the people who have been deliberately going out of their way to say something absurd and ignorant lately (or so it seems) are really, really getting on my nerves. Especially when it's about 'petty' (I use the word lightly, as some things I see as petty may not be to others) things such as accidentally posting in the wrong place, about a dog's ear crop, etc. When I first joined PT and a lot of the older members were still around, it seemed to be a lot more joyful and happy (not saying that I don't enjoy PT now. I do...it's just a lot different than it was then). Now it seems that one thread after another has some sort of rude comment in it. And if one person disgrees with something, the entire thread will turn into a fight over who's right and who's wrong. Overall though, I think it's still a great place..

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