Oh wow, another thread thats progressed since last I checked! LOL

Its amazing how everyone has such vastly different expectations and interpretations for what makes a good relationship. But what everyone essentially expects is common respect for each other, consideration for their feelings and their needs, and a daily effort to make the other person feel valued and appreciated.

We might not all be in perfect relationships. I love my husband dearly and couldn't imagine life without him -- is he perfect? Not even close! Is he perfect for me? you betcha! 99% of our fights come from lack of communication -- whether he neglects to communicate what his expectations are from me in a given situation or I neglect to tell him. For instance, when I had my surgery a few weeks ago, I REALLY wanted him there, but refused (stubborness) to tell him that. I felt he should have KNOWN I wanted him there. How could he have if I was making the whole thing out to be no big deal? I have already told him in no uncertain terms that if I need to have another surgery that I NEED him there. I'm no mind reader and I'm fairly certain he isn't one either, so why should I make him guess what I want?

Often too, we forget things we normally would not forget. Right now, with stress, I'm SO forgetful - I forget the smallest things like making an important phone call. Hugo is still a baby, and babies are known stressors. So he's trying to work, sleep, take care of his son, take care of his wife, be everything he as before the baby, and finding there's not enough time in the day to be everything before Hugo came along. Energy is low, tension is high. I'd cut him some slack on the birthday thing right now. He did give you a card and did send flowers. At last he did that! If he didn't do those and used only the excuse of his cousin not driving him, THEN I'd be furious because he didn't even try at all.