Quote Originally Posted by Samantha Puppy
I don't see where your comments were necessary, lizbud. No one here has said anything inflammatory to or about Lobodeb or anyone else who has shared their thoughts on this matter. Honestly, I don't know sparks19 from Moses, but her post sounds like something I might've said had I had more time earlier today.

Lobodeb asked for feedback and advice. She got it. If she has an issue with anything anyone's said, how about letting her address it with them privately?

Thank you. Seems if you have a differing opinion around here you are out of line LOL. I feel sorry that Lobodeb is so upset about something like this. However, re read the OP and tell me that is not out of line. i would enver call my husband lazy, stupid, say that he can't do anything right, and fault him for everything bad that has happened. Although she seems to have talked the same way about herself in that post. I have no doubt that she is a kind and loving woman. I never stated that she was otherwise, some people just jump to conclusions and read between lines that aren't there. Boy all that jumping must make people tired

Lizbud you are the only one getting upset here. I am not upset in the least. I just call it as I see it. I"m sure she is a very nice woman but I am not going to sugar coat it. I never said I had all the answers and I believe I said that if she has tried the communication approach already then YES she indeed does have a reason to be upset. if she has tried communicating with him about this then there is NO excuse for his behaviour (or lack there of). but she cannot expect him to know how she feels if she doesn't talk to him about it.

She said her birthday was a few weeks ago but she is still upset about it enough to post this and say such things about her husband. If she has been angry for that long there are obviously some deep seeded issues there and they aren't going to go away by her keeping them to herself (venting on here does not count. She needs to discuss this with her family).

Lobodeb, if you see my posts as whatever Lizbud sees them as then I am sorry. I just hate to see such torment in a relationship that it bothers you for weeks and causes you to feel such dislike towards your husband. I really hope you work this out, not only for your family but for yourself.