There is nothing wrong in wanting your partner to be considerate of your feelings, likes, dislikes - of you, in general. If they love you, things that matter to you should matter to them. I too have a difficult time when I go out of my way to be sweet, thoughtful, or otherwise considerate of my husband and he doesn't reciprocate. Marriage is give and take, 50/50, and when it gets lop-sided too far in one direction, any human is going to get disillusioned and allow other issues to snowball into this one and get more upset than they would were it an isolated incident.

You're not being a diva. You're a woman.