Quote Originally Posted by Edwina's Secretary
I would be annoyed. I don't drink coffee, but my husband does. I have learned how to get the coffee he likes (even though I think coffee is coffee) so, if need be, I can pick it up. He knows what kind of soda I like. And will get it for me if need be.

In other words...we both make an effort to know what is important to the other.

And frankly, I don't get a pootie whether he is programmed that way or not. That is just an excuse. I can learn...he can learn.

It is not that difficult.....surely men are capable of learning despite their "different wiring"....

(and I am the one who can never remember our anniversary...I know the month and year but ALWAYS have to look up the day.....)

If men can remember what time the football game starts and who batted what when....they are capable of maintaining a calendar....

I cannot even begin to tell you how right on this post is.

It. Is. An. Excuse. Dress it up in gender issues, cloud it behind "don't sweat the little stuff", or whatever. If it is important to you it should be important enough to him to recognize.

Don't sweat the little stuff? Life it too short? Darn tootin'! Find a man, or woman, or partner, or dog that views life the way you do. Life is too short to spend it with someone that isn't on the same page as you.

Those that say they deal with it? Or, get over it? I would have to imagine that your partner is spot on most of the time, OR, that the issue isn't as big/important to you as it is to the OP. That's fine. But, we are not her.

I would be deeply offended to know MY special day is, frankly, no big deal to my partner.

I think you have EVERY right to be upset/offended, and the no driving thing? Sounds pretty much like a 'core' issue to me. I would bet .02 there is more to that story. I mean more than you know about, really. How long have you two been together? How old is your husband? Off chance- he has a reason he can't drive, i.e., he is prohibited from obtaining a license.....that is how I would see it.