I agree with cookiebaker, a lot of what popcornbird said, and with a lot of what Tim said. You should try to see the good things in his gestures rather than try to put your values or how you do things onto him. He did a very nice thing, maybe not the way YOU would have done it, but he's not you. I have hardly ever recived flower or cards from my husband of 17 years, but presents and things are not the basis of a marriage. If this is upsetting you so much, perhaps you should try some conseling to get to the bottom of what the issues really are so you guys can figure things out and be happy. Having a baby is often stressful on a marriage so maybe a little counseling would help you gusy out. Good luck.