and Eric, IT'S IMPOSSIBLE TO NOT GET INVOLVED. That's why these little creatures love us, because we get involved. I wanted to say that this is human, but they get involved too. Once I had a terrible toothache and Juni came to "pet" me while I was crying. Or anytime we argue with my sis, she comes to us and she tries to make peace, because she loves us.
Don't beat yourself, be happy that you care and you have much more fulfillments in your life than those who don't care. And as you said, WE ONLY LOOSE IF WE DON'T TRY.