my thoughts also, men (not all again) are not made to remember important stuff like that, some wouldnīt even remember their own bdays if their mother/wife didnīt reminded them........

as said he seemed to have the decency of getting you a card and some late flowers (again florist mistake) but still he sended you some........nice gesture

but still, I believe he shouldnīt rely on his cousin to get you something, you are not his cousins wife!!.......as you said you walked whereever pregnant and/or just recently op........just to get HIM a present, he SHOULDīve thought of that gesture of yours and get his butt walking to get you a NICE thing, no matter if you are spoiled or not, you give what you receive and you honey.........are not receiving what you gave.......

and i know some times you just dont have the $$ to splurge as you might want to, but still make a memorable moment out of the day, I myself have posponed some dinner times and all, and I also have went shopping the very same day, but only if I just was too busy or havenīt found something that fullfilled my expectations, or even said I didnīt get you anything cause there was nothing I liked, but if you like something iīll get it for you..........so there are no excuses for not getting you somethign on your bday, I know itīs not good to be materialistic (Iīm not) but you expect to get something nice when thats all youīve been doing (itīs nice to get spolied on bdays/anniversaries)

I read from some PTer , just canīt remember whom (LOL sorry) you can get something nice and add a thank you note to HIS credit card statement LOL...... that way he wonīt need his cousin to get you something........