I had five cats, all the same litter and their Mother, so they are very close. Early last August my Husband and I stopped by the Animal Shelter to drop off some donations. The place was loaded with cats and kittens. Well, to back it up, a couple of months before my Son's cat had died. My Husband felt very bad about this. Well anyway, that day in the shelter he happened to spot a kitten ( about 4 months ) that looked very much like the cat that had died. He was all alone, and had been in the little shelter cage for about 2 or 3 weeks. My Husband took him out of his little shelter cage, and he was so thrilled to be held. Well, we adopted him. We could not get him until Monday and it was Saturday. The shelter had to nuter him, and give him a last check up, and the Vet was gone until Monday. So that was a good thing. It gave us time to get ready. What I did was to keep Todd ( the new kitty ) in a cat crate while so the other cats could see him, and he could see them. I kept him in there for two days when the other cats were around, and only took him out when he had the room to himself. Then I slowly intoduced him to the cats and little at a time. Once he was accepted by one of the cats, and the Mother cat, the worst was over. He still get a hiss once in awhile, but they don't hurt him. He is a kitten and he can be a little over the top sometimes. It took a good month for him to settle in, and to become excepted. It worked out so well in the end. I was really worried at first wondering if I did the right thing. Later, in September, a terrible cat distemper hit our shelter and almost all the cats had to be put down. That was about a month after I brought Todd home. We have a no kill shelter, but that is the only way they felt they could control it, as it was killing many pets that were already living in homes where the adopted pet had gone. I am so glad I got Todd when I did. I am so glad I was at the shelter that day. It is not a place I usually go, and it is not at all like my Husband to want to adopt a pet. So I think it was ment to be. I hope you situtation works out as well, just hang in there. Lois