Hubby makes me mad( good update first op )

[ashleycat]

It was his idea. She is 2 yrs, and has only been going for a month. She's always been clingy. From the day she was born I held her always.

I didn't want her going because I've had bad things always happen to me in care of someone else.

She does get a nap there. She lays down and just falls asleep like everyone else. From day one shes done that.

Now at home... call me a weirdo if you must, but I still breastfeed. And she still nurses to sleep and won't go w/o it.

[ashleycat]

I got with him at 17, he was 21. Married at 19, now I a m24

[ashleycat]

also.. he thinks she will start speaking sentances from going there. But I know a child that is her age speaking sentances and has never been in daycare

[Cataholic]

also.. he thinks she will start speaking sentances from going there. But I know a child that is her age speaking sentances and has never been in daycare

She is TWO!!!!! Kids learn to talk at different ages, even girls. Sheesh, Louise. You are so chock full of excuses. I wonder why you couldn't give half of these excuses, or ones like them, up to your husband, and stick your ground.

To think your child is in daycare while you rant on the internet. Sorry, but, you have clearly made your choice in this. Too bad for your child and your pets. The two adults in the relationship are getting JUST what they are entitled to. Sad.

[JenBKR]

Ashleycat - what do you want to see happen? what would be your ideal?

[Cataholic]

I would be the last person to call you weird for BF a toddler. Seeing that I still BF Jonah, twice a day. I had Jonah in 'preschool', for 3 visits, my mom went with him. It didn't work. He wasn't ready. Not cause he was clingy, but, developmentally, he wasn't ready. I would not leave my two year old in the hands of someone else (excluding my family, of course) unless it was absolutely necessary. Couldn't do it. Wouldn't do it. To hear you say that you had fears of her going, as something bad happens you when you were/are left in the care of others makes me question your duty to your child. I don't care how married you are, or, if he is the husband to top all husbands, no one controls my responsibility to my child except me.

[ashleycat]

I would be the last person to call you weird for BF a toddler. Seeing that I still BF Jonah, twice a day. I had Jonah in 'preschool', for 3 visits, my mom went with him. It didn't work. He wasn't ready. Not cause he was clingy, but, developmentally, he wasn't ready. I would not leave my two year old in the hands of someone else (excluding my family, of course) unless it was absolutely necessary. Couldn't do it. Wouldn't do it. To hear you say that you had fears of her going, as something bad happens you when you were/are left in the care of others makes me question your duty to your child. I don't care how married you are, or, if he is the husband to top all husbands, no one controls my responsibility to my child except me.

He kept pushing me to take her. All because his friend did the same thing. My girl is the reason why I want to stay home.

We are complete opposites too.

I'm liberal an hes conservative.

I'm into tat, peircing, animals and art. He is into collecting art for investments only, money, no animals and nice things.

His family is really strict. He's always trying to impress them. His father is a retired ambassador.

[JenBKR]

IMO being opposite it not necessarily a bad thing, I am opposite from my husband in many ways. It truly can be worked out.

[Cataholic]

I am seriously beginning to think this is all a big joke. Do you read what you type? My goodness! To think a child is involved in this. Is there something wrong with you? He talked you into it? Your child is the reason YOU stay home? To bad your CHILD doesn't get to stay home. That doesn't even make a lick of sense.

I don't care if he is the next King of England. Where is your sense of duty and responsibililty to this situation?

[shais_mom]

Goodluck in whatever you decide to do. I'm washing my hands of this.
I'm not married.
I'm not a mom.
I'm not involved.
Toodles to you!

[ashleycat]

shes home now, asleep in my arms. She has a cold and fell asleep again.

When she goes there, I'm not on here. I am cleaning and making crafts for my website.

Like I've said. She has only been going for a month. He was pushing me to get her going. Him, his friends, my mom. They all seem to know whats better. I know I have a hard time standing up to them.

Since I've started counselling.. I'm trying to get my confidence back. Become a stronger person. But even she says she would benefit going there.

[JenBKR]

I think I've read before that you have depression? Or was it something else? I can't remember now...have you been getting any counseling for that? Or is your counseling couples therapy?

[ashleycat]

counseling is for me, but he goes with me now.

I'm depressed because of how he treats me, his passive agressiveness. I thought it was post partum till my counselor told me his behviour is causing it.

[Cataholic]

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Since I've started counselling.. I'm trying to get my confidence back. Become a stronger person. But even she says she would benefit going there.

If ONLY to see some positive role modelling. And, frankly, I think you are lying out your tush. Out. Your. Tush.

"Everyone" can tell you what to do? Great! Take 25% of the advice offered here and ACT on it. That won't work, though, will it? NOOOOOOO....that requires hard work, dedication, commitment. You are kind of lacking those skills, sweetie. Your poor, poor daughter.


Oh, I know! I know! Since your conselor seems keen on telling you what to do, take this whole thread, and show it to her. Let her read it, in its entirety. See what she says, then! Fat chance, I know, right?

[Samantha Puppy]

Aaaaaaaaaaand so we go back to my comment from two pages ago.

If you aren't willing to work at changing things and instead come up with excuse after excuse about why you are where you are in life, things are never going to get better for you.

Good luck with it. I think you've about exhausted your sympathies here.