Hubby makes me mad( good update first op )

**Maya & Inka's mommy** · 10-07-2006, 10:35 AM

Didn't you two discuss "pets" before you got married?? I would NEVER have accepted a hubby who doesn't like pets and has NO respect for mine

**ashleycat** · 10-07-2006, 10:39 AM

Originally Posted by Maya & Inka's mommy

Didn't you two discuss "pets" before you got married?? I would NEVER have accepted a hubby who doesn't like pets and has NO respect for mine

nope we didn't. I came with a cat lol. So.. lol

**Sara luvs her Tinky** · 10-07-2006, 10:58 AM

i had the same problem with my EX!!!!! husband! he was controlling and told me I could only have 1 cat no dogs no hamsters no nothing!!!!!! when my sister had to rehome Jupiter for a little while it was a HUGE battle just for me to convince him to let Jupiter stay with us..

Jupiter ended up staying for good

and he realized having two cats wasn't so bad! Even bringing in the homeless kitties untill the no-kill shelter i like to work with could find them another foster home was a big fight with him all the time. People need to realize no one is going to fall down and die if there is more than one pet in the house!!!

Husbands are too much trouble!!!!!!

they stink!!!!!!!

If by some crazy miracle i decided to get married agian... i would make sure they understood my strong feelings for animals and my need to have pets and rescue homeless ones!!!!!

**Dorothy39** · 10-07-2006, 11:21 AM

I'm glad that the two of you are working on it!!

It's the old tug of War that often happens in a Marriage !!

( He just needs to take a look at his own spending habits!!!, without judging yours!!)

I think you two have this under control~~~keep your communication open!!!

Oh, and, Keep that Bunny too!!!

**Prairie Purrs** · 10-07-2006, 12:55 PM

Well, I'm not the best resource for what makes a marriage work,

but if he's the type (like my ex) who insists that "he who makes the money makes the rules," then what I'd do is present him with a bill for household services. That might help bring it home to him that it's not just "his" money--it's money that's earned through a partnership to which you contribute. And partners have an equal right to decide how the partnership funds are spent.

**moosmom** · 10-07-2006, 12:48 PM

Sara,

Husbands are too much trouble!!!!!! they stink!!!!!!!

AMEN to that, sister!!!!

**Glacier** · 10-07-2006, 12:58 PM

Originally Posted by Sara luvs her Tinky

Husbands are too much trouble!!!!!!

they stink!!!!!!!

Only if you got the wrong one! The right one is much less trouble!

My husband knows better than ask me to choose between him and the critters. He's lose, not because I don't love him enough, but because if he truly loves me, he'd never ask me to make that choice. (He wouldn't in any case.)

Course the money issues you describe are exactly why we have no joint bank accounts. I make my own money and once I've covered my share of the household expenses, I can spend it on whatever I want to and he can't say a word. Likewise, when he goes a little nuts at the hardware store, I can't say a word!

**Catty1** · 10-07-2006, 01:01 PM

I like the idea of a bill for your household work. Housekeepers make $15 - $20 per hour.

I would suggest doing this at a counselling session though. Or suggesting doing it at the counselling session!

**ashleycat** · 10-07-2006, 01:18 PM

I would love to do the bill for the housework

Only I've already brought up giving me an allowance. And he has never gave me anything. Saying he wants to pay the bills/credit cards off first. In that rate I'll never see anything. Which is why I just get over feeling guilty about spending some and get what I need for myself, daugher and animals.

It's not like I'm running a farm here. No offense. Tho I would love to

lol.

I have my own small business making jewelry. But I'm not making squat off of it. In fact I'm loosing money due to buying supplies. But I keep telling him.. as long as I'm selling what I make yaddy yadda. I have lots of stuff I've made. Just gotta figure out where totake it to be sold.

I've bought business cards and post cards. 2 Car magnets one for my car, one for his.

His father is the boss in his house. Very strict. So I can already tell hubby is going to be strict. I'm laid back. I want our kids to have fun, but stay out of trouble. I want them to be able to talk to me about anything. Not be afraid to.

**BitsyNaceyDog** · 10-07-2006, 01:04 PM

Originally Posted by Glacier

Only if you got the wrong one! The right one is much less trouble!

My husband knows better than ask me to choose between him and the critters. He's lose, not because I don't love him enough, but because if he truly loves me, he'd never ask me to make that choice. (He wouldn't in any case.)

Same here. Anyway Justin has brought home almost as many as I have.

**BC_MoM** · 10-07-2006, 01:18 PM

It's YOUR bunny, and YOUR dog. He has NO right WHATSOEVER to take either of them or any of your other animals away from you... EVER.

**ashleycat** · 10-07-2006, 01:28 PM

I like you guys! =)

**Jessika** · 10-07-2006, 01:55 PM

Originally Posted by ashleycat

I like you guys! =)

And we like you

PS: to you and Jess, I haven't been on MSN because its been giving me problems... again. So I lurk here or play my nerdy game most of the time

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**chocolatepuppy** · 10-07-2006, 02:11 PM

Husbands are too much trouble!!!!!!

they stink!!!!!!!

Depends on who your husband is I guess.

My husband loves our furkids, he's a great Mr. Mom. He's not crazy about my fish but tolerates them being all over the house. He never liked cats but now loves our two. He told me no cats, Sassys been here 7 years. Then when I brought Missy home he said he was moving out.

He's still here and so is she.