2 of my 5 cats no longer getting along

[Freedom]

The cat hierarchy changes with time as the kitten grows up. That may be what this is; they are just resettling the order of things. Is either one an alpha / dominant one? You can tell by head size. An alpha male has a much larger head than most cats. Ditto an alpha female.

You say she is still scared of him, but then say she approaches him to groom. Well, then she isn't too afraid of him, is she? If she backs off when he looks at her, that is good. They understand each other and no fighting involved. As long as they aren't into bloody battles, I would wait and see if they work things out between them. they just may not be cuddling buddies for now.

[krazykitties]

yes she is still scared of him, not cowaring in the corner but she groomed him very cautiously, like trying to make up with him or make him like her. and left the room as soon as he looked at her. she had always been the boss of all the cats so this is different behavior for her. it's hard to say about the alpha cat with them. she still seems to be alpha to 2 of the cats, one is her littermate (they always get along, it has just always been that way with them, and they are still close)and the other one was a kitten the same time the one that turned mean was a kitten. the 3rd female seems to be on the same level as her, they seem to be rivals for attention, but neither one is above or below the other. as for the one that turned on her, he is a big cat, and does have a big head so does that make him an alpha cat? the funny thing is, he is tame with his brother and the other 2 girls. so who knows. he is only mean to the one and that is I think because she was mean to him one too many times and he got tired of it. she does stay away from him and the other except her littermate as much as possible because she doesn't like the multi cat house I guess.

I also wonder about this alpha cat thing, about the head size, what if a litter of kittens are the same size, then how do they determine who is alpha?

[krazykitties]

Freedom I see you also have 7 cats, like me. 2 live with my mom. anyway I just read my post , I guess I should give their names so its less confusing.

at my house, the 3 females are Daisy, Emily and Rose. The males are Oreo (he's black and white) and Snickers. (guess I was hungry when I named them lol!)

Oreo and Snickers were kittens together. Emily and Daisy are littermates and are the ones that protected the kittens from another cat not living with me now. Emily and Rose have always been equal, sometimes Emily would chase Rose away other times Rose would chase her away, rivals for attention. it was never a big deal, the females usually all get along, which I always thougth odd because I thought females are more territorial.
after the male kittens grew up, Emily would be bossy or mean with them if they went around her for whatever reason. Snickers is still scared of her and will keep his distance, but Oreo is the one that got mad that time. He is tame with all the other cats, he will play with his brother sometimes and they are still close like Daisy and Emily. Rose and Oreo are also close. If I could divide them, if I had a bigger house or 2 stories, I would put Emily and Daisy together and then Rose, Snickers and Oreo together.