Three steps forward, two steps back...

[caseysmom]

Okay I will step in as the devils advocate here. Your brothers offer of 400 a month for 6 months was quite generous. He may have a lot of things but probably has payments to go with all of them.

I am going through something similar with my niece, my brothers family always thought we have money so we can pay for everything. I do have a nice home...guess what I have a nice payment that goes with it.

Sorry Donna this just touched a nerve I am going through this with my niece expecting me to pay for everything and no thank you's or appreciation.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Here for you Donna!

[pitc9]

Many hugs to you Donna!
I can't believe the hard times you are going through right now!
I hope we at PT can help you stay strong!
The condo for rent sounds promising!!
Paws crossed for you!!

[moosmom]

My brother and I had a long talk this morning. An actual CIVILIZED discussion.

He said, "Here's the deal...I want you to fax me all the information on your car, pay off amount, account number and where to send the payment to, I'm paying your car off. I'm also going to send you enough money for the security deposit, first and last months rent and $400/month for six months towards your rent. That should give you sufficient time to find employment and will also require you to contribute something to the rent. The only thing I am adamant about is that you keep on taking your medicine, go to counseling and keep looking for a job." I was totally bowled over. He said he finally realized how serious my illness was and that he is the only family I have left.

I have an appointment to look at a studio apt. tomorrow. Can't wait to see it!!

He then asked me WHY I moved to Michigan and I told him. I also told him that it was the biggest regret I have, as the grass isn't always greener on the other side. It's the first time we've had a civilized conversation in 9 years. I told him I loved him. I hope it's a new beginning for us.

Caseysmom,

With all due respect, I have NEVER asked my brother for anything, so it's not like I'm always calling him asking him to bail me out.

I feel like I've had an enormous amount of weight lifted off of me.

Zippy,

Thank you for your support. I never hold grudges girl. I'm just glad that that everything worked out on your end with regards to your kitties.

Thank you EVERYONE for your support. It means the world to me.

[caseysmom]

Donna, I know its different with you than my niece I was just trying to get you see his side, he may have lots of money but debt and bills also...thats all. Actually he sounded a bit like how my sister is being toward my niece and its pretty ugly.

I am glad he is able and willing to help this will give you a chance for a new beginning.

[JenBKR]

Donna I am so sorry that I am getting in on this so late. Sooo very glad that your brother is helping - you must be so relieved. You have been in my prayers for quite some time, so hopefully they are paying off. I know it has really been one thing after another for you, if you ever need to talk my PM box is always open. ((((hugs))))

[moosmom]

Thanks JenBKR. You're the best!!!

[momoffuzzyfaces]

What good news, Donna.
I know brothers can be a pain in the behind sometimes but then, sometimes they just turn around and amaze you. Mine sure did!

Prayers that things are beginning to turn around for you !!!

[jenluckenbach]

God bless your brother. I am glad that he realizes that family should stick together. I am so relieved for you. With less to worry about over the next few months, you can concentrate on YOU!


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