Sorry this is so late
Been there...
An Elderare lawyer is the way to go.. I wouldn't have survived without one.
I could give you oodles of advise based on what I did. I sure hope your friend actually calls a lawyer. This brings back such sad, terrifying memories. After paying the lawyer the 1st time with my dad, I learned what to do with my mom. I called the lawyer, told him what I did and he OK'd it, never charged me and said I was a quick learner. It was a semi nightmare, but in order to save any money at all and not let ot go towards a nursing home (let Medicare pay) she'll have to do something fast. I hope everything works out....