Kelly needs help with her kitties!!!

[Catty1]

Kelly - see about some medical-reason income...even check with a women's shelter, they are tied into all kinds of resources.

The only other thing I can think of...is if you could somehow get a housesitting situation and take your two kitties with you. Do you have any friends who are real estate agents?

With your recent situation, you have a lawyer? Ask THAT person about getting financial support while you look for work and try to get healthy.

Awwww....hon!

HUGS!

[sasvermont]

I feel sorry for Kelly. I have for some time. You are one of those people with an illness that impacts on so many aspects of your life, including employment.

I would hesitate to give you employment advice since you live in CA, we have not seen your employment agreement/application and we don't have all the details, oh, and we are not lawyers. The firm I work for handles employment matters. They are usually complicated and expensive to handle. They can drag on for years. Only a handful of people have positive outcomes. Most attorneys will not touch an employment problem unless it is for an executive making lots of dough, with a contract.

If I were to give you advice, I would suggest you find permanent homes for her kittens until you get your health and housing under control for at least a year. It falls in to the "can you really afford" these pets. They are expensive and to not have funds to take care of them, including Vet expenses, is downright frustrating.

Maybe you qualify for permanent disability via Social Security? Maybe you should work with a temporary agency, allowing you a little more flexibility with your schedule. Maybe, maybe, maybe. Kelly is the only one who can really help Kelly. All we can do is support you through your choices.

Living home with Mama is stressful enough and when you mix in the new rules of no cats here and there, it is just about impossible. Thanks for ?????? Oh well, there may be other factors involved in this housing/cat problem. Isn't your mom married - maybe step-dad, dad, whatever, has some reason for being so strict about the house rules?

The bottom line is that you need to get your health issues under control. Nothing will destory job prospects/employment more than being out sick the first few days.

(I hope Kelly reads this with interest and not insult. It is meant to give her another opinion and not one blaming the employer for her being sick.)

Kelly dearest, I wish you lived closer. I feel very sorry for you.

(((((((((((((((((((Kelly)))))))))))))))))))

Sas

[shais_mom]

Living home with Mama is stressful enough and when you mix in the new rules of no cats here and there, it is just about impossible. Thanks for ?????? Oh well, there may be other factors involved in this housing/cat problem. Isn't your mom married - maybe step-dad, dad, whatever, has some reason for being so strict about the house rules?

while I'm not answering FOR Kelly - I know the situation well enough to say that Momma makes the rules. Not her step-dad!

[wolflady]

Thanks everyone. I'll be sure to get these messages to Kelly, if she hasn't already seen them.

I just feel so bad for her situation. Her cats are her life, and like Staci said, they are very bonded to her. I know that she'll do what she needs to do, but she's going to try her best to keep all of her babies. I know it's not easy, and I wish there was more I could do for her. If only I lived closer! Even this distance of 5 hours makes it a bit tough to help.

**hugs**

[wolflady]

Hi everyone! Kelly wanted me to post this message in response to all of your kind posts.

**hugs**
Karen

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Thank you all for your concern, prayers and ideas. First and formost, I wanted to let you all know that while what my "new" boss did, it is NOT illegal. I signed a form saying that I had a 6-month probationary period and could be let go for ANY reason whatsoever and they did NOT have to tell me why. I signed it, fully understood it and well, got to use it too!

With all things, I know it'll all work out. Yea, it sucked, I was doing very well. I was there early each day, the drive was fine and I was really looking forward to starting my life again. While working I was feeling pretty good, outside of the one day I had to go to the ER. (my ER visits do NOT mean I'm having an attack, its just the pain getting a bit too much for my meds. This normally only happens at night, so it shouldn't have indicated anything like an attack.) I was at work at 5:55 a.m. the following day, doing my work. While I was in the ER, after I was givin the meds, I was pacing my room and begging my ER doc to let me go back to work, for this exact reason.

But, like my mom says, things happen for a reason and the job, the boss and some of the co-workers really were dreadful. Like I said before, I had already spoke to HR about a transfer to another dept whenever available.

My main problem is paying for the boarding fees. I cannot volunteer time there, or work off any fees. They don't do that there, unfortunately. The cats will never, ever be welcome at my mom's house. I need to respect that, they've allowed me in their home and are providing me with food and shelter and are helping me with my bills so I don't have any further trouble. I'm elgible for unemployment and will be recieving that soon, so I can pay my bills and contribute.

I'm working with a temp agency that I've worked with before and I'm going to work at least temp jobs until the right thing comes along for me, and it will. I'm doing whatever I can to save myself and my cats.

I cannot let them go. I don't have anything else in my life, but my very small family and those cats (and of course my amazing PT family!!). The two at David's house are fine and able to stay as long as I need them too.

I'll just have to make it work. I'm relentless in my pursuits and I need to do this. Luckily, I'm feeling pretty OK. I have two appts in the next 2 weeks with my specialist and pain doc and will discuss strategy to keep me feeling OK.

I may be a candidate for disability, but, I wouldn't be able to work and I need to do that. Disability pay for me would only be approx $1200 a month and that is nowhere near enough to live on out here. I'm healthy and able *enough* to work, I just wont be running marathons or lifting heavy objects...I work a desk job, thankfully.

Thank you all so much for your concern, prayers and love. While its been really hard for me to get online recently, it'll be much easier in the next month. My parents are buying a computer and getting a high speed cable line so I'll be back on. Yay!!!

Um, what else?? I'm working with my temp agency and will make the rounds at all the local hospitals with my resume. Hopefully something will turn up. At least I have my temp agency that can offer me work anytime I need/want it, so that's really good.

Again, thank you all sooooo very much. You're wonderful and I will keep all your good wishes and great advice with me.

This also may insterest you...I'm going to be seeing a psychologist ASAP to help me deal with all this stuff. I know you've been worried for me, but I know this'll help. Its helped in the past and its something I need to help me be happy and healthy.

Love you!! I'll be back soon!!!

Love, Kelly
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[Logan]

Thanks, Karen. I went looking for this thread the other day to see what was going on. Please let Kelly know that she remains in my prayers. Her attitude is magnificent and I know she's going to find her "place" soon.

Logan

[gini]

Karen, thanks for posting this for Kelly.

Just look at our girl - just as determined as always to get right on top of things and make it positive and move forward.

We are all behind you Kelly with our prayers and love every step of the way.

[shais_mom]

Kelly - see about some medical-reason income...even check with a women's shelter, they are tied into all kinds of resources.

The only other thing I can think of...is if you could somehow get a housesitting situation and take your two kitties with you. Do you have any friends who are real estate agents?

With your recent situation, you have a lawyer? Ask THAT person about getting financial support while you look for work and try to get healthy.

Awwww....hon!

HUGS!

FYI
Kelly has 5 cats.
Micah - stresses out under any kind of stress/move. He has IBD.
Jonah- Phoebe-Basil - easily stressed. Basil has asthma.
Noah- doesn't like strangers and is easily stressed and has sent people to the ER and drawn blood on even more people.
All the cats are extremely bonded with Kelly. They love their mommy!
Things with her friend CiCi didn't end well to my understanding. I don't think she'd be willing to help out a "friend". My opinion of her doesn't matter and that's all I'm gonna say about that!
2 of her cats - Noah and Micah are at her soon to be ex husbands house. But he already has their other 3 cats for himself - I doubt he would allow her to bring the other 3.