Venting

[moosmom]

Slleipnir,

You have every right to feel hurt. Afterall, she's your mother. When my father married my stepmonster, it was as if his own kids and grandkids fell off the face of the earth. The whole world revolved around Barbie and her kids and grandkids. I never got one-on-one time with my Dad, because Barbie and he went everywhere together. All I wanted was to sit down with my Dad alone and have a decent conversation without "Babs" butting in. Never happened. I finally had to sneak around. My Dad played golf everyday and then went to First & Last Tavern for lunch. He and I would meet up there and have lunch together. It was "our" time.

Have you ever told your mom that you just want to some one-on-one time with her to just hang, go shopping, get a bite to eat, etc.?? Tell her how you feel. She might very well surprize you.

I'm sorry you're feeling down. Relatives have a way of doing that. I called my brother the other day to see if I could come for a visit. I should've known better. His reply was, "Well, take care of what you're going through (meaning my depression) and then we'll talk about it." I cried all the way to work. But, I should've known better. Talking to my brother is like slamming my hand in a door. If I don't talk to him, I won't get hurt. If I don't put my hand in the door, it won't get slammed and it won't hurt.

Hang in there. If you ever want to chat, PM me. I'll give you my number.

[slleipnir]

Thanks for taking the time to read and reply to this, Donna. I have actually told her how I feel. I told her I just want to be with her. She said "we do lots of things together! We go to the movies" All we did is go to the movies. I can't talk to her there. I see her a work. I sit and talk to her and she sometimes cuts me off mid sentence and starts to talk about something else or to someone else. She does NOT listen to one word I say. I remember once when we were fighting I had said something, and she was like well, yada yada. And I said no mom, I didn't SAY that, then repeated myself. She said well yada yada again. I had to say it litterally 7-8 times before she actually listened to what I said. Seriously. Me and my bro went to dinner with her the other night. I asked him about it and he said "She didn't hear one thing I said." So I'm not the only one. I tell her she does this, and she doesn't hear it, either.

I remember once I told her something to help her back a little (that is sore) like 5-6 times. Then my brother tells her the same thing and she tells me "oh your brother told me to do this for my back. Isn't that a great idea?" I'm like uhh, I've been telling you that for a long time...."Oh, I never heard you"

I'm thinking I'm going to quit my job this week (I work with her) I really don't want ot. I love it where I work. I love all the customers I get to know. I'll really miss them, but I need to be away from her so maybe she will appreciate me more when I am around?